Comments on: What We Need to Not Do, When People Hurt Us..

By: Banji

Banji — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 08:28:00 +0000

sharze – the pleasure is mine

By: sharzefarish

sharzefarish — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 06:24:00 +0000

abang banji…thank you very much for this

By: banji

banji — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 14:13:00 +0000

diha – jadi org tengah lah yg paling susah… kite jadi mcm emotional dump.

yg jadi masalahnya ialah bila semua perkara negatif tu akan lekat kat kite, sebab kite jadi tempat lepaskan perasaan.

saya tak tau apa yg sebenarnya berlaku, dan kemungkinan besar apa yg ditulis tak relevan. tapi ini pendapat saya…

diha sendiri tau yg paling penting ialah study. so apa kata tukarkan situasi ni jadi perkara yg menguntungkan diha sendiri. here what u should do….

tetapkan bila masa diha yg wajib study. since si A tu jadikan diha org tengah.. diha jadikan dia org tengah utk masalah diha. konon2nya diha ada masalah nak belajar. tanya apa pendapat dia. automatically sebagai org yg banyak minta tolong diha, dia akan cuba menolong, bagi nasihat etc.

then diha cuba mentionkan kat dia yg diha nak cuba disiplinkan diri… pukul 8 sampai 11 masa diha study. takleh buat benda lain. dia dlm niat nak menolong mungkin secara x langsung akan cuba menolong. jadi kurg le sket jadi sesi org tengah tu, dan diha pun boleh lebih study.

setiap kali dia cuba ajak diha bincang masalah dia, diha mulakan dulu bincang masalah study diha.

harapnya faham apa yg cuba disampaikan ni, tell me how it goes.

By: dihaKJ

dihaKJ — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 12:51:00 +0000

i still dont how to deal with these peeps la banji..
nk cite pon panjang.. dulu yes, i tried to run away from these type of people.. cume nye now, i think, i shud just let them go and live my own life.. but still sumtimes, mereka ini go over the border line.. i slalu jd org tgh tau, i mean, jd org tgh scr tidak rasmi.. so mcm, A is telling all the tidak puas hati tentang B to me. tapi from what i see, si A nih pon buat jugak ape yg si B nih buat. i nk tegur la perbuatan si A nih.. but i dont know how.. sebab2 utama is si A nih lebih tua dari diha dan a bit susah untuk menegur org2 yg lebih tua nih.. takut nti dikatekan kurang ajar pulak.. so, i pon tal tau la cane.. and now mcm its getting worse pulak i nengok.. so i try to avoid myself from her.. ntah la.. all i want to do is focus on my studies.. itu je..

By: Banji

Banji — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 07:25:00 +0000

menghina ibu tu dah kira cross the line. kalau org tu sanggup hina ibu org lain, maknanya dia sebenarnya menghina ibu dia sendiri.

betul apa yg kaklong buat tu,nothing is more important than family.

tp kalau kaklong bleh share, mcm mana kaklong manage ur feeling at the time?

By: Zura@Kak Long

Zura@Kak Long — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 05:06:00 +0000

kak long selalu menghadapi situasi yang sebegini. Kita cuba berubah bukan kerana diri kita tetapi kerana mahu diterima. At last, I could not take it anymore..kalau dah sampai menghina ibu kita, biarlah kita tidak dicintai mahupun disukai. Ramai lagi yang mahu berkawan..yg penting famili..bukan begitu??:-)

By: banji

banji — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 15:27:00 +0000

Sorry to hear that bro...

And it's true that things always harder than said. Anything in life especially when emotion is involved. We can just say do this do that.. but in real life it's really that hard to do.

But at least, we know what to do.. So much better than enduring all the pain but don't know what to do. That's why some people commit suicide, because that is according to them the best way to end all thing. Just a note : "As a muslim, the problem will not only be unsolved, it is to be suffered forever in hell"

Quoting - "But then again... ignoring those would only be the best move. What else can u do?"

This would be a good way to avoid the pain. What else can we do?

Of course there's always the difference between suppressing the pain and dismissing the pain.

Hopefully things will get better bro.

By: Pocket

Pocket — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 14:37:00 +0000

its harder to do than said bro…
its harder…
it is always harder…

Its easy to throw a staepler to someone when u’r somebody with stripes on your shoulder…
who wanna sack u over a Material Handler?
But then again its not a good move.

Try it when u’r just a clerk n the opponent is a senior… u’ll be sacked before u could say
‘it was her fault… she’s callin me names…’

Its hard to ignore people like dat.
they just kept on coming with bullet n knife that will cut n hurt u. u just cant ignore the pain when its bleeding inside n your eyes is watering your pillow.

But then again… ignoring those would only be the best move.
What else can u do?
Staepler?