Comments on: When To Voice Out Your Inner Voice http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/ Sharing Ideas & Experience Daily Sun, 29 Jan 2012 03:12:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Banji http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-870 Banji Fri, 14 Sep 2007 15:08:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-870 ien - :) nasihatkan org ni bukan benda senang... yg paling penting ialah kite nak pastikan diorg mendengar. <br/><br/>hal ni yg tricky sbb... bila kita sendiri dinasihati, kita sedikit sebanyak terasa mcm org pandang buruk pada kita. ego pun tercalar kat situ, mungkin sbb tu cara kita kena lebih banyak biar dia faham sendiri nasihat tu,<br/><br/>tapi mmg ada org yg mmg takmo dgr, mmg tak dapat dibantu. at least dgr lah dulu pendapat org... nak terima ke tak, is totally up to him / her :)<br/><br/>:) ien – :) nasihatkan org ni bukan benda senang… yg paling penting ialah kite nak pastikan diorg mendengar.

hal ni yg tricky sbb… bila kita sendiri dinasihati, kita sedikit sebanyak terasa mcm org pandang buruk pada kita. ego pun tercalar kat situ, mungkin sbb tu cara kita kena lebih banyak biar dia faham sendiri nasihat tu,

tapi mmg ada org yg mmg takmo dgr, mmg tak dapat dibantu. at least dgr lah dulu pendapat org… nak terima ke tak, is totally up to him / her :)

:)

]]> By: Banji http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-869 Banji Fri, 14 Sep 2007 15:03:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-869 intan - a pleasure as always..<br/><br/>I totally agree with you. there's nothing wrong in giving advice. but one should always do it in the best of form. giving messages like that, and not even make any attempt to know you is plain insulting. even from dakwah point of view. <br/><br/>If dakwah is only about conveying the message. Why not Allah give the whole quran in the Gua Hira'? Dakwah is not about giving the message. it must be done in the best of form (hikmah)<br/><br/>Hopefully this little entry will help in the total makeover of our way of communicating with people<br/><br/>thanx for requesting them intan :) intan – a pleasure as always..

I totally agree with you. there’s nothing wrong in giving advice. but one should always do it in the best of form. giving messages like that, and not even make any attempt to know you is plain insulting. even from dakwah point of view.

If dakwah is only about conveying the message. Why not Allah give the whole quran in the Gua Hira’? Dakwah is not about giving the message. it must be done in the best of form (hikmah)

Hopefully this little entry will help in the total makeover of our way of communicating with people

thanx for requesting them intan :)

]]> By: iEn http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-868 iEn Fri, 14 Sep 2007 13:19:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-868 yg hampehnye.. bila kita nasihat duk kata kita ni melebih.. adeh ler.. buat apa laah Allah berikan terlinga kepada kita kalau seseorang tu degil.. :/ yg hampehnye.. bila kita nasihat duk kata kita ni melebih.. adeh ler.. buat apa laah Allah berikan terlinga kepada kita kalau seseorang tu degil.. :/

]]> By: intankamaruddin http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-867 intankamaruddin Fri, 14 Sep 2007 11:44:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-867 Thanks Banji! :-D<br/><br/>Hehe. Actually I'm quite like ara too. I give ppl my ears when they need one.<br/><br/>Anyway, the problem is, i hate ppl who judge me and offer advices when i don't need it! whats worse is how they convey the msg.<br/><br/>Once I was very2 pissed off bcoz this one tabligh guy passed me a msg via a girl regarding the way I dress, and it sounds reaaaallly sarcastic and humiliating! I respected him but after d incident I never lookd at him d same way again. He didnt even know me! Atleast, be my friend first only then he should have the right do be that sooo noble prasan bagus like. Huh. <br/><br/>Maybe I requested diz to my advantage :-D. So dat ppl wud be careful, there's borderline btw being helpful and bossy. And even if we think they deserve a reminder, giv it nicely. Dont turn them off by ur sharp, self centered tongue.<br/><br/>*sorry for lengthy comment*<br/><br/>:-D Thanks Banji! :-D

Hehe. Actually I’m quite like ara too. I give ppl my ears when they need one.

Anyway, the problem is, i hate ppl who judge me and offer advices when i don’t need it! whats worse is how they convey the msg.

Once I was very2 pissed off bcoz this one tabligh guy passed me a msg via a girl regarding the way I dress, and it sounds reaaaallly sarcastic and humiliating! I respected him but after d incident I never lookd at him d same way again. He didnt even know me! Atleast, be my friend first only then he should have the right do be that sooo noble prasan bagus like. Huh.

Maybe I requested diz to my advantage :-D . So dat ppl wud be careful, there’s borderline btw being helpful and bossy. And even if we think they deserve a reminder, giv it nicely. Dont turn them off by ur sharp, self centered tongue.

*sorry for lengthy comment*

:-D

]]> By: Banji http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-866 Banji Fri, 14 Sep 2007 10:17:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-866 ara - good for you ara.. if people are coming to you for advice, you must be either a great listener or you really understood them.<br/><br/>betul apa yg ara cakap tu, nasihatkan org ni bukannya bertujuan utk tunjuk kita lebih matang atau berpengalaman. nasihat ni tak lebih dari kita bagi pendapat org ketiga.<br/><br/>pendapat kita tak semestinya lebih baik, tapi at least dgn pendapat kita tu... org yg dinasihati dah ada sedikit hala tuju mcm mana nak settle problem dia.<br/><br/>keep it up sis... :) ara – good for you ara.. if people are coming to you for advice, you must be either a great listener or you really understood them.

betul apa yg ara cakap tu, nasihatkan org ni bukannya bertujuan utk tunjuk kita lebih matang atau berpengalaman. nasihat ni tak lebih dari kita bagi pendapat org ketiga.

pendapat kita tak semestinya lebih baik, tapi at least dgn pendapat kita tu… org yg dinasihati dah ada sedikit hala tuju mcm mana nak settle problem dia.

keep it up sis… :)

]]> By: aRa http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-865 aRa Fri, 14 Sep 2007 07:14:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-865 <b>My friend always look for me for an advice..I don't know why..maybe i tlg diaorg kot dgn nasihat i..agagaga..from high school smpi la zaman kolej until zaman penganguran ni..friend do call me klo ade masalah(adeh..jd tempat mengadu and tmpt meminta nasihat)<br/><br/>Setakat ni..smua nasihat i,byk yg accept and berjaya menolong mereka..some ckp i should consider keje bidang kunselor but i don't think so..<br/><br/>Menasihati org ade cara..bergantung pada situasi, keadaan and ape pokok pangkal masalah dia..don't just jump into a conclusion dgn nasihat yg remeh temeh krn ia pasti tidak akan membantu org 2..<br/><br/>Bila si yg meminta nasihat 2 meluahkan masalahnye..dgr dgn teliti dan kaji permasalahan..and if u can't handle the situasion..mengaku terus pada si bermasalah 2..bab their tend 2 depend on u tok cari jalan penyelesaian..<br/><br/>And 1 most important thing..jgn pernah nasihatkan org bt benda yg tak berguna..Sentiasa berikan nasihat yg berguna and mcm ckp korg..yg berunsur kebaikan..</b> My friend always look for me for an advice..I don’t know why..maybe i tlg diaorg kot dgn nasihat i..agagaga..from high school smpi la zaman kolej until zaman penganguran ni..friend do call me klo ade masalah(adeh..jd tempat mengadu and tmpt meminta nasihat)

Setakat ni..smua nasihat i,byk yg accept and berjaya menolong mereka..some ckp i should consider keje bidang kunselor but i don’t think so..

Menasihati org ade cara..bergantung pada situasi, keadaan and ape pokok pangkal masalah dia..don’t just jump into a conclusion dgn nasihat yg remeh temeh krn ia pasti tidak akan membantu org 2..

Bila si yg meminta nasihat 2 meluahkan masalahnye..dgr dgn teliti dan kaji permasalahan..and if u can’t handle the situasion..mengaku terus pada si bermasalah 2..bab their tend 2 depend on u tok cari jalan penyelesaian..

And 1 most important thing..jgn pernah nasihatkan org bt benda yg tak berguna..Sentiasa berikan nasihat yg berguna and mcm ckp korg..yg berunsur kebaikan..

]]> By: Banji http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-864 Banji Fri, 14 Sep 2007 04:34:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-864 hm nasihat yg dia nak dengar? mungkin jugak.. tak guna nasihat tu berguna mcm mana kalau tak didengari kan?<br/><br/>tapi tu la, kebanyakkan nasihat yg berguna dan baik tu ialah yg perit nak diterima. hm nasihat yg dia nak dengar? mungkin jugak.. tak guna nasihat tu berguna mcm mana kalau tak didengari kan?

tapi tu la, kebanyakkan nasihat yg berguna dan baik tu ialah yg perit nak diterima.

]]> By: filantera http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/comment-page-1/#comment-863 filantera Fri, 14 Sep 2007 02:38:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2007/09/13/when-to-voice-out-your-inner-voice/#comment-863 ada jgak dgr kata , kalau people minta nasihat, berikan nasihat yang dia nak dengar, dgn menuju ke arah kebaikan<br/><br/>susah gak kut ada jgak dgr kata , kalau people minta nasihat, berikan nasihat yang dia nak dengar, dgn menuju ke arah kebaikan

susah gak kut

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