In Islam, we also believe that any hardship we faced with patience will be rewarded by forfeiting the sins…

as for the fake anger… hm what I meant is just that.. whether it is fake or real anger, what important is the will to do something about it

cheers,

Religious Point of View
From the bits of info I gathered from Buddhism, it is said that us mortals exist in or is reborn into the physical realm of mortals because of the sins that we carry over centuries of cycles of birth and rebirth.

There is also the law of cause and effect, i.e. karma.

Thus, the act of people throwing stones at our folks can be explained that because of our folks’ actions (cause) in their past lives, so now these mofos are throwing stones at them (effect).

But, this act of throwing stones (effect) can be interpreted as fulfilling the debt of karma, which kinda means that those mofos are doing our folks a favor by treating them bad.

In other words, whenever someone treats us bad, they help us remove our sins. Kinda something like that.

Of course, this is a little bit of what Buddhism is about.

Cheers

If it doesn’t take too much of your time, please share your idea on the scenario from your religion point of view That’s the whole idea of this blog anyway..

“But there will be time when anger is needed, like maybe when somebody throw stone at our parents. Some level of anger is needed to allow us to confront that rude people. If we are not at all angry, we will let them do what they want,”

Well, this is kinda weird, but this kind of situation (example) can be looked at from a few perspective. Basically from a normal human being’s or from a more religious point of view.

Normal
1. Hot headed
Screaming: “Motherfxxking fools! How dare you throw stones at mua folks!!! $%#$^#^ I am gonna gut you all alive you worthless sons of B#@%@#hes”
Displays genuine anger, plenty of bubbles produced. This individual could very well be out of self control and there is a strong possibility of being manipulated by one’s currently heated emotion.

2. Level headed
Stern voice: “Stop your actions or we will call the police!”
Displays fabricated anger through facial expressions and tone of voice, but is in fact level headed and no bubbles are produced. This individual is in total control of one’s speech and action.

I guess, banji is referring to the second choice aye?

Religious
From a religious point of view, well, I will only continue if banji is interested in what I have to share?

First of all, I totally support this 90/10 rule, what I’m trying to highlight, is that the emotion anger is there for a reason. That we may sometime need to have the feeling in order to react accordingly.

Being angry is never a pretty sight, and it must be avoided at all time. But there will be time when anger is needed, like maybe when somebody throw stone at our parents. Some level of anger is needed to allow us to confront that rude people. If we are not at all angry, we will let them do what they want,

Anyway.. good job in choosing the 90/10 rule with your relationship

Well, you’re welcome. :p

Perhaps, the way that we can benefit from these negative emotions, when we are not actually performing such negative emotions ourselves?

For example, let’s say I said something that royally pissed off my Darling, but I did not realize that. Darling’s reaction is sudden outburst and obviously she is very pissed off and angry.

I can choose to react in many ways, say:
1. Get angry myself (bad choice, I say, sadly I still find myself in this option sometimes even though I am trying hard everyday to practice the 90/10 principle, my mouth needs to be sewn up during heated arguments or fights since nothing good seems to come out from it)

2. Cool down, look back at what I said earlier, contemplate. Think about what I did earlier that might have pissed her off. Try to apologize to Darling to make her feel better etc.

Is this what you are trying to say?
I think it is.
Cheers!

From what I understand, you’re differentiating between pain and “Anger,envy” in term of pain is physical and the latter is emotional, Did my assumption correct?

And I also familiar with the 90/10 rule, as you comprehensively describe in your entry.. good enty anyway

However, maybe my focus is that all these emotion, or physical effect, be it positive or negative is there for us to benefit from. There will always be time, when anger is needed. envy is needed.

p.s. ur disagreeing.. is greatly appreciated

Pain is a natural physical reaction for human beings and living animals (insects too?) on the planet earth, i.e. all beings created by Allah (or God?)

Pain happens automatically when the situation demands it, i.e. a lady would definitely suffer extreme pain during child birth, a victim of a serial killer would definitely feel immense pain when the serial killer saws off the victim’s limps off slowly one by one, etc.

Unless one’s nerve system have been heavily modified such that our feeling of pain is cut off, one will always feel pain.

Though there are cases when one does not feel the pain right away, especially when the damage is inflicted instantaneously. Only afterwards when one notices one’s wound, then the feeling of pain will kick in.
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Anger, Envy on the other hand are in fact non physical, emotions that one is able to exert total mental control over it, once properly trained and conditioned to do so.

Negative mental emotions are optional for us and they do not benefit us in any way, but instead degrade us further and thus should be avoided.

In short, negative emotions should never be used if one is able to do so. It is hard, but not impossible.

The 90/10 Principle stresses that one should always react positively to any kind of situations that happen to us. The 10% is the random factor, the 90% is how one choose to react to the situation.
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Cheers!

tapi tu la, menyumpah ni kena cuba kurangkan, marah semua org marah, dan selalunya org boleh maafkan kalau kita marah dgn sebab yg betul, tapi menyumpah dan maki ni, susah org nak terima, dan selalunya sekali dimaki, mmg akan ingat sampai mati.

mmg susah nak ubah, tapi kena cuba la ara ye

hehe first time dgr jahat yg positif.. kena elaborate sket tu ara

Knp org mrh selalu menyumpah ek??memaki…i do..Dah selalu sgt…walaupun i know ia salah but masih gak bt..Tapi i mmg selalu minta maaf la pass i nyumpah.. Agagagaga..

Kadang nak jadi terlalu baik pun tak leh…i suka kaedah balance..baik pun ya…jahat pun ya..Agagagaga..tapi jahat bkn la jahat jenayah ke..ape ke..jahat yg +ve la..Hohohoho(mulai ari ni nak gelak mcm ni la..since nak xmas ni and ur bday..Hohohoho)..