Comments on: Mixed Signals.. What To Do? http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/ Sharing Ideas & Experience Daily Sun, 04 Jul 2010 08:41:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1757 banji Mon, 14 Jan 2008 17:20:46 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1757 <strong>moon</strong> - yup, there is a very fine line that separate a crush from true love. But at one point, we will always know which is which. Nobody can teach us that. Give it time, get to know the person... No logic or tutorial can help you with this one. You will have to make the choice. and whether it will be disaster or your dream, you will have to accept it. Follow your heart, but follow with all the wisdom and knowledge in your mind as guidance :) <strong>intankamaruddin</strong> - A test as such is one of the best method to know :) I totally agree with Intan. But you may have to come up with a specific test for you <strong>My anonymous friend</strong> - Hopefully we can be of help to you. Let us know if there's anything else we can help you with moon – yup, there is a very fine line that separate a crush from true love. But at one point, we will always know which is which. Nobody can teach us that. Give it time, get to know the person… No logic or tutorial can help you with this one. You will have to make the choice. and whether it will be disaster or your dream, you will have to accept it.

Follow your heart, but follow with all the wisdom and knowledge in your mind as guidance :)

intankamaruddin – A test as such is one of the best method to know :) I totally agree with Intan. But you may have to come up with a specific test for you

My anonymous friend – Hopefully we can be of help to you. Let us know if there’s anything else we can help you with

]]> By: intankamaruddin http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1749 intankamaruddin Sun, 13 Jan 2008 17:12:04 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1749 i mean, dats how u know if a guy loves u or not. see if he comes tailing or he ignores. :-) i mean, dats how u know if a guy loves u or not. see if he comes tailing or he ignores. :-)

]]> By: intankamaruddin http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1748 intankamaruddin Sun, 13 Jan 2008 17:09:43 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1748 leave him. :-p leave him. :-p

]]> By: moon http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1743 moon Sun, 13 Jan 2008 06:11:58 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1743 yeah, i know how u feel. knowing some one virtually, feeling that he really cares bout u (mabe u n him smsing everyday), so as a woman, we will feel easily crush on that person or mite as well say, u thought it as a love. feeling of loving, there is nothing wrong, u can let the feeling flow accordingly. but, u have to know, once u already meet him up, face to face, get to know his family, friends, only by that time, u can sure ur feeling again. are u really really in LOVE once u already meet him? bcoz, u mite have higher expectation on that guy, which is actually is not like what u think. just an advice. =) yeah, i know how u feel. knowing some one virtually, feeling that he really cares bout u (mabe u n him smsing everyday), so as a woman, we will feel easily crush on that person or mite as well say, u thought it as a love. feeling of loving, there is nothing wrong, u can let the feeling flow accordingly. but, u have to know, once u already meet him up, face to face, get to know his family, friends, only by that time, u can sure ur feeling again. are u really really in LOVE once u already meet him? bcoz, u mite have higher expectation on that guy, which is actually is not like what u think. just an advice. =)

]]> By: anonymous http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1740 anonymous Fri, 11 Jan 2008 18:38:45 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1740 Terima kasih semua atas nasihat dan tidak lupa juga pendapat anda semua..Saya amat menghargainya kerana memang saya sebenarnya keliru.. Terima kasih kerana membuat saya berfikir dengan lebih mendalam terhadap perkara ini..Terima kasih semua kerana mengingatkan saya untuk lebih berhati-hati.. Terima kasih saya pada azuwachan,filantera dan DaPocket..Anda telah selamatkan saya dari kebingungan ini.. Terima kasih juga pada banji kerana sudi kongsikan masalah saya pada pembaca banji..Saya hargainya.. Terima kasih semua atas nasihat dan tidak lupa juga pendapat anda semua..Saya amat menghargainya kerana memang saya sebenarnya keliru..

Terima kasih kerana membuat saya berfikir dengan lebih mendalam terhadap perkara ini..Terima kasih semua kerana mengingatkan saya untuk lebih berhati-hati..

Terima kasih saya pada azuwachan,filantera dan DaPocket..Anda telah selamatkan saya dari kebingungan ini..

Terima kasih juga pada banji kerana sudi kongsikan masalah saya pada pembaca banji..Saya hargainya..

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1739 banji Fri, 11 Jan 2008 16:33:56 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1739 <strong>My anonymous friend</strong> - As you can see from the response here, most of us are more concern with the fact that he is a virtual guy. You may have talked to him over the phone, email etc, but the truth is we really can't tell his true nature or his feeling. Your problem even started from there right? not knowing how exactly he felt for you. You must also excuse us, if what we wrote here is not accurate. There must be a reason for you to fell in love with him, and it must be a good one. and there's no way we will understand that. But.. personally for me, as long as you didn't actually met the guy, or his friends and family, you don't really know him. And falling in love at this stage is most probably just a crush. Overall, it may seems that we are not answering your question. But I sincerely think that the problem is very well adressed by fellow friends. In short - You need to know him better - Be very sure of your feeling first - Test him accordingly.. Words are deceiving, action usually tell the truth I really hope to be able to solve this for you, but as a friend, this is what we think is more important. I deliberately will let this topic open by not posting today. Maybe other friends might have other opinions on the matter. Feel free to reply to the comment anonymously My anonymous friend – As you can see from the response here, most of us are more concern with the fact that he is a virtual guy. You may have talked to him over the phone, email etc, but the truth is we really can’t tell his true nature or his feeling.

Your problem even started from there right? not knowing how exactly he felt for you.

You must also excuse us, if what we wrote here is not accurate. There must be a reason for you to fell in love with him, and it must be a good one. and there’s no way we will understand that. But.. personally for me, as long as you didn’t actually met the guy, or his friends and family, you don’t really know him. And falling in love at this stage is most probably just a crush.

Overall, it may seems that we are not answering your question. But I sincerely think that the problem is very well adressed by fellow friends. In short
- You need to know him better
- Be very sure of your feeling first
- Test him accordingly.. Words are deceiving, action usually tell the truth

I really hope to be able to solve this for you, but as a friend, this is what we think is more important.

I deliberately will let this topic open by not posting today. Maybe other friends might have other opinions on the matter.

Feel free to reply to the comment anonymously

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1738 banji Fri, 11 Jan 2008 16:11:29 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1738 <strong>filantera</strong> - that's a very good way to know the true nature of his feeling. See how the guy actually treated you. Everyone can talk, saying all the right things, but the important thing is really how he make you feels. He can be a very quiet person, but if he really care, you will know. thanx bro <strong>DaPocket</strong> - a medium is just a medium. very true indeed. it's very easy to hide one's true nature in such medium. Nicely done :) filantera – that’s a very good way to know the true nature of his feeling. See how the guy actually treated you. Everyone can talk, saying all the right things, but the important thing is really how he make you feels.

He can be a very quiet person, but if he really care, you will know.

thanx bro

DaPocket – a medium is just a medium. very true indeed. it’s very easy to hide one’s true nature in such medium.

Nicely done :)

]]> By: DaPocket http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1737 DaPocket Fri, 11 Jan 2008 13:07:38 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1737 wah.. da filantera talkin like a true shrinks. u da maannnn.... actually for me, the whole chattin world is just a medium for people to communicate. to get to know people. to actually says 'hi' without having to feel ashame, segan, fear of rejection. But u cant see the person who u're chattin wit pocket.. well dats the best part.. then u dont have to feel intimidated about your looks. u dont have to worry about your 36 inch waist when u're chatting with a full naturally blond kerengga... but a medium is just a medium. u have to take a step higher. meet him up. see how the chemistry works with both pheromones mingling in the air :D See how those haagen dazs taste with him in front of u. touch him a little (but not too much!!) n see how does it sparks. with a couple more haagen dazs, a bit of present goes both ways, share a few popcorns during movie. n then ask im... lets get married :D hahahaha but make sure u checked his marital status ^^; wah.. da filantera talkin like a true shrinks.
u da maannnn….
actually for me, the whole chattin world is just a medium for people to communicate.
to get to know people.
to actually says ‘hi’ without having to feel ashame, segan, fear of rejection.

But u cant see the person who u’re chattin wit pocket..

well dats the best part.. then u dont have to feel intimidated about your looks.
u dont have to worry about your 36 inch waist when u’re chatting with a full naturally blond kerengga…

but a medium is just a medium.
u have to take a step higher.
meet him up.
see how the chemistry works with both pheromones mingling in the air :D
See how those haagen dazs taste with him in front of u.
touch him a little (but not too much!!) n see how does it sparks.

with a couple more haagen dazs,
a bit of present goes both ways,
share a few popcorns during movie.
n then ask im…

lets get married :D hahahaha
but make sure u checked his marital status ^^;

]]> By: filantera http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1736 filantera Fri, 11 Jan 2008 09:42:01 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1736 well, cut off the way they know the way they communicate. basically action speaks louder than words......... is he really concern, when u are not around, does he notice u ? when u are around is he notice u? does he remember ur besday or try to remember? if the relationship is longger than 6 months, dont be afraid to ask........... directly or indirectly directly: do u love me? indirectly: would u come and meet my parent before we go out do u mind if i introduce u as my boyfren(ice breaking topic) why do i miss u ek? bla bla bla........................................... in the same time, always bring ur safety parachute...:D well, cut off the way they know the way they communicate.

basically

action speaks louder than words………

is he really concern, when u are not around, does he notice u ? when u are around is he notice u? does he remember ur besday or try to remember?

if the relationship is longger than 6 months, dont be afraid to ask………..

directly or indirectly

directly: do u love me?

indirectly:
would u come and meet my parent before we go out
do u mind if i introduce u as my boyfren(ice breaking topic)
why do i miss u ek?

bla

bla

bla…………………………………….

in the same time, always bring ur safety parachute…:D

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/comment-page-1/#comment-1734 banji Fri, 11 Jan 2008 03:26:19 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/01/11/mixed-signals-what-to-do/#comment-1734 <strong>azuwachan</strong> - she is actually mid20s, her exact age is kept confidential and it’s sad but I have to admit that there are A LOT OF men out there that like to play with women’s emotion. I actually know some guys that do this just for the fun of it. Of course, I definitely did not agree with the idea. anyway.. nice advice there p.s. Do note that I used "A Lot Of" instead of "All"... there are still a lot of very good men out there :) Hopefully myself included in that group azuwachan – she is actually mid20s, her exact age is kept confidential

and it’s sad but I have to admit that there are A LOT OF men out there that like to play with women’s emotion. I actually know some guys that do this just for the fun of it. Of course, I definitely did not agree with the idea.

anyway.. nice advice there

p.s. Do note that I used “A Lot Of” instead of “All”… there are still a lot of very good men out there :) Hopefully myself included in that group

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