Comments on: Are We Defining Happiness Wrongly All This While? http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/ Sharing Ideas & Experience Daily Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:29:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3060 banji Mon, 19 May 2008 18:02:24 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3060 <strong>fairuzniza</strong> - What can I say, if we find pleasure in love by getting hurt. Then that's maybe the best way for us to love. Hm.. I have no problem with unconditional love. A pure kind of love that expect nothing in return, and always prioritizing our loved ones than our own self. But, hurting ourselves intentionally for me will always feel wrong :) p.s. I actually found the song.. Thanks for sharing fairuzniza – What can I say, if we find pleasure in love by getting hurt. Then that’s maybe the best way for us to love.

Hm.. I have no problem with unconditional love. A pure kind of love that expect nothing in return, and always prioritizing our loved ones than our own self. But, hurting ourselves intentionally for me will always feel wrong :)

p.s. I actually found the song.. Thanks for sharing

]]> By: fairuzniza http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3059 fairuzniza Sat, 17 May 2008 12:52:05 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3059 uncle..i want to share a lyric of a song with you..the song is entitled 'menjaga hati', by yovie and nuno..it's about 'he' who would just wait for 'her' and still be there, even 'she' is running away from 'him'... masih tertinggal bayanganmu yang telah membekas di relung hatiku hujan tanpa henti seolah pertanda cinta tak di sini lagi kau telah berpaling biarkan aku menjaga perasaan ini, ohh menjaga segenap cinta yang telah kau beri engkau pergi, aku takkan pergi kau menjauh, aku takkan jauh sebenarnya diriku masih mengharapkanmu masih adakah cahaya rindumu yang dulu selalu cerminkan hatimu aku takkan bisa menghapus dirimu meski ku lihat kini kau di seberang sana <b>andai akhirnya</b> <b>kau tak juga kembali</b> <b>aku tetap sendiri</b> <b>menjaga hati</b> sejujurnya diriku masih mengharapkanmu p/s--the song had just show us that we [I] would never mind to let ourselves [myself] get hurt for the one we [I] love.., especially the last verse..hmm.. uncle..i want to share a lyric of a song with you..the song is entitled ‘menjaga hati’, by yovie and nuno..it’s about ‘he’ who would just wait for ‘her’ and still be there, even ’she’ is running away from ‘him’…

masih tertinggal bayanganmu
yang telah membekas di relung hatiku
hujan tanpa henti seolah pertanda
cinta tak di sini lagi kau telah berpaling

biarkan aku menjaga perasaan ini, ohh
menjaga segenap cinta yang telah kau beri
engkau pergi, aku takkan pergi
kau menjauh, aku takkan jauh
sebenarnya diriku masih mengharapkanmu

masih adakah cahaya rindumu
yang dulu selalu cerminkan hatimu
aku takkan bisa menghapus dirimu
meski ku lihat kini
kau di seberang sana

andai akhirnya
kau tak juga kembali
aku tetap sendiri
menjaga hati

sejujurnya diriku masih mengharapkanmu

p/s–the song had just show us that we [I] would never mind to let ourselves [myself] get hurt for the one we [I] love.., especially the last verse..hmm..

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3058 banji Fri, 16 May 2008 14:41:41 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3058 <strong>fairuzniza</strong> - Thank you for loving the entries :) Still a lot to improve Anyway, If I remember correctly there's a saying "Love is blind". Maybe that's why we can sometimes forget to love ourselves and focus all our attention to him/her. Nothing's wrong with that, except that we must try to slowly put ourselves first before others. Be happy with ourselves first before seeking happiness from others. Because, we may never know whether it's happiness or sadness that we will get from him/her. <strong>DaPocket</strong> - I've never heard of such story. Really appreciate it if you can tell it to us :) "What is luving without the one to luv" - a great quote indeed fairuzniza – Thank you for loving the entries :) Still a lot to improve

Anyway, If I remember correctly there’s a saying “Love is blind”. Maybe that’s why we can sometimes forget to love ourselves and focus all our attention to him/her.

Nothing’s wrong with that, except that we must try to slowly put ourselves first before others. Be happy with ourselves first before seeking happiness from others. Because, we may never know whether it’s happiness or sadness that we will get from him/her.

DaPocket – I’ve never heard of such story. Really appreciate it if you can tell it to us :)

“What is luving without the one to luv” – a great quote indeed

]]> By: DaPocket http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3057 DaPocket Fri, 16 May 2008 12:53:09 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3057 remember the romantic story of a male butterfly who come as early as he can to prove that he luv his female butterfly more only to find his luved one is dead inside the flower since she was there from yesterday? that is a true example of not luving yourself first. i mean.. what is luving without 'the one' to luv remember the romantic story of a male butterfly
who come as early as he can to
prove that he luv his female butterfly
more only to find his luved one is
dead inside the flower since she was there from yesterday?

that is a true example of not luving yourself first.
i mean.. what is luving without ‘the one’ to luv

]]> By: fairuzniza http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3056 fairuzniza Fri, 16 May 2008 11:50:36 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3056 salam uncle..love your entry this time..[actually i always love your entries..huhu~] urm, love yourself before you love somebody else..it's true..but someyimes, when we love somebody, we [i intend to say I] always forget to love ourselves [myself] in the end..because when we love someone, we [I] will always put him or her in front, no matter what.. salam uncle..love your entry this time..[actually i always love your entries..huhu~]

urm, love yourself before you love somebody else..it’s true..but someyimes, when we love somebody, we [i intend to say I] always forget to love ourselves [myself] in the end..because when we love someone, we [I] will always put him or her in front, no matter what..

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3055 banji Fri, 16 May 2008 11:48:20 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3055 Good point taken <strong>Deimos Tel'Arin</strong> - If you gotta love someone, then better love unconditionally <strong>filantera</strong> - love is never equal to happiness <strong>Jane</strong> - You will not know the meaning of loving other people if you don't first care for and honor yourself <strong>azuwachan</strong> - To love someone is to love yourself As for me, I really think that we need to be happy with ourselves first. This is the most important simply because if we cannot find happiness in ourselves, how can we find one in others. Good point taken

Deimos Tel’Arin – If you gotta love someone, then better love unconditionally

filantera – love is never equal to happiness

Jane – You will not know the meaning of loving other people if you don’t first care for and honor yourself

azuwachan – To love someone is to love yourself

As for me, I really think that we need to be happy with ourselves first. This is the most important simply because if we cannot find happiness in ourselves, how can we find one in others.

]]> By: azuwachan http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3054 azuwachan Fri, 16 May 2008 04:34:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3054 it is so true; LOVE YOURSELF FIRST, and that is the most important. I don't know about others, but for me to love others is to love yourself first. It's not about being selfish, but what I mean is to know what you really want so that when you have to choose something out of your life, you'll know what's the best for you. So that the choice you make will at least give you the satisfaction. But for some, they do not see this. And when it comes to making choices, they end up following other's suggestion, which may not satisfy the self. But yes, sometimes to love someone is to love yourself. It all depends on the individual, finally :) it is so true; LOVE YOURSELF FIRST, and that is the most important.
I don’t know about others, but for me to love others is to love yourself first.
It’s not about being selfish, but what I mean is to know what you really want so that when you have to choose something out of your life, you’ll know what’s the best for you. So that the choice you make will at least give you the satisfaction.
But for some, they do not see this. And when it comes to making choices, they end up following other’s suggestion, which may not satisfy the self.
But yes, sometimes to love someone is to love yourself. It all depends on the individual, finally :)

]]> By: Jane http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3053 Jane Fri, 16 May 2008 02:54:31 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3053 I do think that we should love ourselves first. Even the bible somehow teaches that. The commandment of the Lord said "love thy neighbor as you love yourself." Therefore, you will not know the meaning of loving other people if you don't first care for and honor yourself. You cannot give what you do not have. I do think that we should love ourselves first. Even the bible somehow teaches that. The commandment of the Lord said “love thy neighbor as you love yourself.” Therefore, you will not know the meaning of loving other people if you don’t first care for and honor yourself. You cannot give what you do not have.

]]> By: filantera` http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3052 filantera` Fri, 16 May 2008 01:26:56 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3052 yess, but to simplify it, love is never equal to happy. to love someone, sometime will bring other feelings too. but, we cant simply live with only sugar right! yess,
but to simplify it, love is never equal to happy.
to love someone, sometime will bring other feelings too.

but,

we cant simply live with only sugar right!

]]> By: Deimos Tel`Arin http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/comment-page-1/#comment-3051 Deimos Tel`Arin Fri, 16 May 2008 00:22:56 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/2008/05/16/are-we-defining-happiness-wrongly-all-this-while/#comment-3051 Well, if you gotta love someone, then better love unconditionally, else you gonna feel miserable if he or she treats you bad. :) Well, if you gotta love someone, then better love unconditionally, else you gonna feel miserable if he or she treats you bad. :)

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