Comments on: 6 Tests You Can Do On Your Friends At A Coffee Shop

By: banji

banji — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 10:08:06 +0000

Oorumon – Thank you for the comment.

By: リン

リン — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 04:22:37 +0000

I tend to agree with Frank on this. Such a deliberate “test” seems petty, and not especially effective. Well, and if someone did this to me, I would question /their/ value as a friend.

By: banji

banji — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 13:43:40 +0000

Jade – Good point, best friends usually understand each other at a higher level. But how about your average friends? How do you know which ones deserve that emotional investment?

Anyway, appreciate your honest opinion

By: Jade

Jade — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 05:30:13 +0000

If they are your best friends… you should never have to question it? You should just know it… That’s what makes people best friends. They understand each other at a higher level. If you really have to ask and make sure… then they’re probably not a very good friend.

We don’t have to deliberately test someone to see if they are our good friend or not.

By: banji

banji — Wed, 28 May 2008 15:10:09 +0000

noushy syah – Thank you for the doa noush.. Alhamdulillah everything is ok

By: noushy syah

noushy syah — Mon, 26 May 2008 16:44:43 +0000

TQ Banji…my well wishes to you and your MRs.Insyaallah inducing is a normal procedure for those mums to be if overdue or post date.

My dua with you and your Mrs.
Take care.

By: banji

banji — Sun, 25 May 2008 17:04:11 +0000

Frank – Apparently your comment fall into my spam, Sorry for that, already despam you.

Interesting point of view. I do agree that testing a person is very insulting. I myself may not forgive one who do it on me. However, for me, being tested and testing other aspect in life is a daily routine. It just happen every day. We will always ask a friend for a drink. And let’s just say the friend keep giving excuses to us… I’m sure deep down we will come up with a conclusion ourselves that he/she may not like us that much.

As long as we are observing and coming up with conclusion, we are always doing test on people and other elements of life. The article however, deliberately point out this, that maybe we can come up with a more proper way to draw conclusion instead of just plain guess work.

Appreciate your different pov though

By: banji

banji — Sun, 25 May 2008 16:44:38 +0000

DaPocket – very subtle

fairuzniza – interesting, that can be test no 7, make the friend angry, and if he still insist on helping you or advising you, it shows how sincere he is in being a friend (just a translation to all non-malay speaking readers)

soleh – a direct approach. But I don’t think we can know for sure the level of sincerity of that friend. Maybe you have another approach by being direct?

noushy syah – very soon. Actually today the mrs will be warded and tomorrow insyaAllah the delivery will be induced. Please pray for her wellness

I totally agree with your definition of best friend. He/she should be able to say no when due. That’s why the enemy usually end up being a best friend. Because they usually will tell what we do wrong straight to the face.

By: noushy syah

noushy syah — Sun, 25 May 2008 11:51:19 +0000

Salamz Banji…hope you and fmly are fine.Wonder if you have been a ‘daddy’ already or not?

Wishing you all the best yea..Take care and have a gr8 weekend too.

My blog is Ok now..don’t really know why it disappeared yesterday…

Best friend to me is someone that will never comdemn or bitch abt you behind your back.. but give positive criticms including saying NO when due,show you the rite path when necessary and surely not hypocrites.

By: soleh

soleh — Sun, 25 May 2008 10:48:27 +0000

Or perhaps we can just ask, am I your best friend..hehe