Comments on: The Correct Way To Argue In A Relationship http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/ Sharing Ideas & Experience Daily Tue, 22 May 2012 11:51:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Beautifully Imperfect | GTD portal http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5400 Beautifully Imperfect | GTD portal Tue, 11 Jan 2011 10:31:04 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-5400 [...] The Correct Way To Argue In A Relationship [...] [...] The Correct Way To Argue In A Relationship [...]

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5356 banji Wed, 22 Dec 2010 10:40:53 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-5356 <strong>Anonymous</strong> - I couldn't agree more with what you've pointed out. Personally, I think argument in a relationship is healthy. It shows that nothing is being kept inside which is far more dangerous to the relationship in the long run. Still, as you've said, we must really be careful when arguing, knowing what to do, and most importantly what NOT to do. <strong>Aurora</strong> - I am actually smiling while reading your comment. This is exactly what I hope to accomplish with the article. Thank you for sharing your rules of argument. I believe it may save other's relationship some day. p.s. Sex is always the best remedy to an argument. I just hope the make up sex is not so great that both of you looking forward for another fight :) Anonymous – I couldn’t agree more with what you’ve pointed out. Personally, I think argument in a relationship is healthy. It shows that nothing is being kept inside which is far more dangerous to the relationship in the long run.

Still, as you’ve said, we must really be careful when arguing, knowing what to do, and most importantly what NOT to do.

Aurora – I am actually smiling while reading your comment. This is exactly what I hope to accomplish with the article.

Thank you for sharing your rules of argument. I believe it may save other’s relationship some day.

p.s. Sex is always the best remedy to an argument. I just hope the make up sex is not so great that both of you looking forward for another fight :)

]]> By: Aurora http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4973 Aurora Wed, 17 Nov 2010 09:08:25 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4973 My boyfriend and I argue an average of once or twice a week, which I think is quite often. I would be worried if we didn't have our specific arguing style. We may argue, but the way in which we do it shows that we truly do respect and care for each other. - We never name call - We never threaten breaking up - We understand that LISTENING and understanding WHAT/WHY the other is saying is far more important than agreeing, even if it is a major issue. - We validate each other's feelings: we understand that FEELINGS are neutral and are neither right nor wrong. No one can ever tell you that you don't have a right to be mad, or that you can't feel sad. We listen and we let the other person know that "I understand that you feel this way, and why you feel this way, even if I don't feel the same or agree." - We don't argue about hypotheticals b/c "9/10 of the worries coming at you down the road will fall off the road before they reach you." - We are committed to our CHOICE to be together. We know that as long as we are together, that is where we want to be. We have each assured the other that we would end our relationship if it was no longer working or workable. And I believe this is the biggest one.... - We have reaaaaalllly f***ing great make up sex each time we fight. My boyfriend and I argue an average of once or twice a week, which I think is quite often. I would be worried if we didn’t have our specific arguing style. We may argue, but the way in which we do it shows that we truly do respect and care for each other.

- We never name call
- We never threaten breaking up
- We understand that LISTENING and understanding WHAT/WHY the other is saying is far more important than agreeing, even if it is a major issue.
- We validate each other’s feelings: we understand that FEELINGS are neutral and are neither right nor wrong. No one can ever tell you that you don’t have a right to be mad, or that you can’t feel sad. We listen and we let the other person know that “I understand that you feel this way, and why you feel this way, even if I don’t feel the same or agree.”
- We don’t argue about hypotheticals b/c “9/10 of the worries coming at you down the road will fall off the road before they reach you.”
- We are committed to our CHOICE to be together. We know that as long as we are together, that is where we want to be. We have each assured the other that we would end our relationship if it was no longer working or workable.

And I believe this is the biggest one….

- We have reaaaaalllly f***ing great make up sex each time we fight.

]]> By: Anonymous http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4968 Anonymous Wed, 03 Nov 2010 19:55:26 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4968 While arguing is said to be "Normal", we all must be careful when we argue because often-times an argument can hide a much bigger problem. The style and way we may argue can speak volumes towards the way we actually feel for one another or say who we are deep down inside. Persistant arguing will allmost always eventually cause a division or worse. How we handle an argument will say how much we love our better half and ultimately ourselves. While arguing is said to be “Normal”, we all must be careful when we argue because often-times an argument can hide a much bigger problem. The style and way we may argue can speak volumes towards the way we actually feel for one another or say who we are deep down inside. Persistant arguing will allmost always eventually cause a division or worse. How we handle an argument will say how much we love our better half and ultimately ourselves.

]]> By: IQ Matrix Blog » Blog Archive » A Better Loving Relationship: 36 Critical Lessons | Mind Map http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4295 IQ Matrix Blog » Blog Archive » A Better Loving Relationship: 36 Critical Lessons | Mind Map Sat, 29 Nov 2008 10:18:23 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4295 [...] The Correct Way to Argue in a Relationship @ Lesson In Life [...] [...] The Correct Way to Argue in a Relationship @ Lesson In Life [...]

]]> By: October 2008 Reflections - SpiritualBlog.com http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4121 October 2008 Reflections - SpiritualBlog.com Fri, 31 Oct 2008 12:31:41 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4121 [...] The Correct Way To Argue In A Relationship [...] [...] The Correct Way To Argue In A Relationship [...]

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4064 banji Thu, 23 Oct 2008 09:16:00 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4064 <strong>Yanz</strong> - Me too, argument is the last thing in my mind in any situation. But sometimes it happens, we just have to deal with it. Yanz – Me too, argument is the last thing in my mind in any situation. But sometimes it happens, we just have to deal with it.

]]> By: yanz http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4063 yanz Thu, 23 Oct 2008 06:12:24 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4063 i dun like to argue, but sumtime I have to! hahaha.. i dun like to argue, but sumtime I have to! hahaha..

]]> By: banji http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4058 banji Wed, 22 Oct 2008 12:37:03 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4058 <strong>Zakiah</strong> - That is an interesting way to make him doubt himself. I'll keep that in mind should anyone try that on me Zakiah – That is an interesting way to make him doubt himself. I’ll keep that in mind should anyone try that on me

]]> By: zakiah http://lessoninlife.com/2008/10/21/the-correct-way-to-argue-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4057 zakiah Wed, 22 Oct 2008 09:43:36 +0000 http://lessoninlife.com/?p=544#comment-4057 I have only one rule when arguing with my other half. i.e. Keep quiet. In that way he'll ponder whether he is right or wrong. After all these years, I can never win in an argument with him . I have only one rule when arguing with my other half. i.e. Keep quiet. In that way he’ll ponder whether he is right or wrong. After all these years, I can never win in an argument with him .

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