Comments on: Why Positive Thinking Is So Difficult – A Personal Theory

By: LEEZ

LEEZ — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 09:06:28 +0000

THINKING POSITIVE ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD RESPON FROM OTHERS BUT WHY WHEN THINKING NEGATIVE ALWAYS HAVE BAD RESPONS FROM OTHERS.

By: Huey Laforet

Huey Laforet — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 02:31:28 +0000

This makes little sense when you consider the whole. We see a book for more than a book, and what we can see can be negative as well. It can be a blunt instrument used for murder. It can give you paper cuts. If you ingest it, the ink will probably make you nauseous, you may even choke on the paper. If you look at the totality of events, more things are negative than positive. How many trees were killed for paper? Positive events are only fleeting, subjective, and usually of little consequence. Events we consider negative have far reaching consequences.
Even if your life is saved, you will still one day die. And that death is eternal. In that sense, the bad will always outweigh the good. Torture is far worse than the best feeling you could possibly experience, and humanity has limitless capacity for cruelty. All you’re really listing are cute defense mechanisms to fool yourself into believing a reality that isn’t so.
You might ask if there is value in knowing or acknowledging a truth that can only be painful. I don’t know, but some large part of me thinks that as a being that can comprehend reality, it’s my duty to do so faithfully and truly.

By: lynn

lynn — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:55:55 +0000

Positive thinking is about more than the thought that we have and it is an entire approach to life. It means focusing on the positives in any situation rather than the negatives and thinking well of our self and others. The most basic indicators of our positivity or negativity are our emotions. The more aware we are of emotional signals, the more we will be able to move our feelings from negative to positives. Furthermore, our thoughts and beliefs also influence us to be positive. The core strategy of positive thinking is to adapt our thoughts, emphasizing the positive and defusing the negative. Alter our thought and we automatically alter our emotion and redirect our action.
` To improve our approach to life, we must ensure every aspect of our behavior is positive. The key to real success in positive thinking are first, we must challenge our thoughts by rethinking our thoughts, checking the facts, reviewing our track record, being realistic, keeping things in perspective and looking on the bright side. Second, we must alter our mental images by making positive pictures, and tapping our unconscious. Third, we must using constructive language by choosing the right words, avoiding “should” and using affirmations. Forth, we must rethinking our beliefs by building positive beliefs, collecting the proof, setting up experiments, evaluating our attitudes, banishing fear and restructuring memories. Fifth, we must establishing self-esteem by rethinking the messages, setting our own targets and being kind to our self. Lastly, we must maintain our positive behavior by staying on track, using “as if” approaches and planning a positive day.

By: banji

banji — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 11:36:35 +0000

Hazwan – That’s an excellent way to perceive things differently. There is always a two way of seeing things.

I remember one story told by a friend. If you write the number nine on the sand, your friend who is standing directly in front of you will see the number 6, no matter what you told him

Daryl Furuyama – I agree. We have to draw the line between looking at things positively and justifying the negative things we do. Thank you for the complementary thought

By: Daryl Furuyama

Daryl Furuyama — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 17:23:58 +0000

Your first image about the black dot in the white background is an excellent in illustrating why it’s hard to think positively. I think that we are more used to noticing when we feel pain than when we feel good.

I like your examples of re-framing a car accident into something not so bad. I think we should also be careful not to justify the bad things we do to not feel so bad about them.

By: Hazwan

Hazwan — Sun, 31 May 2009 08:32:15 +0000

Lets find a way to positivity through reframing
our mentality.

When your lover leaves you, you might say
“Oh, this is the end of my life!”

Somebody in the other place on the planet might
says “Ah, this is an opportunity for me to get a better
person as my lover”

Hazwan

By: banji

banji — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 13:53:05 +0000

Office Rave – That’s an interesting point. It is always easier to see the negative things in life. Thus, affecting our personal quest to positive thinking.

By: Office Rave

Office Rave — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:09:45 +0000

One of the reasons why its so difficult to always be so positive is because there’s so much negativity around us. Turn on the news and there’s wars going on. There’s global warming etc. When I am the happiest mood but then start a conversation with a negative relative, that can really have an affect on me.

By: banji

banji — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 16:29:00 +0000

Ummu Alif – Nice definition of positive thinking. Thank you.

If you don’t mind I would like to translate that to English for our English speaking friends reading – “Positive thinking is the optimistic attitude in understanding the message of God in every downturn we encounter”

Please correct me if I’m wrong

By: ummu alif

ummu alif — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 04:02:02 +0000

‘tetap optimis dalam mencari sisi- sisi positif terhadap “bahasa Tuhan” yang terungkap dalam setiap musibah yang melanda’ = positive thinking