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Personal Blog – The Hidden Bonus

Summary – Blog as Therapy

Yesterday I visitted one of my friend’s blog. He thinks that his blog is not as good as everyone else’s. And that everyone else’s had either good writing skill or good information in each entry while his is about his daily life and thoughts.

As for me, the whole blogging community is like a buffet restaurant. You can eat anything from the wide variety of food served. I personally will avoid the fish, some may stuff everything in and some will only have that “bubur kacang”.`There’s just something for everyone. And if the restaurant only serve water (simply because everyone need water), then it wouldn’t be a great buffet restaurant now would it?

There’s really a fan for each category. Whether you write about movies review, your feelings, Islam or politic. There will always be someone out there who like to read it. To find them is totally another story.

However in my opinion, personal blogging is not meant for others to read. Most importantly, it is for you to write. The blog will be a place to let out our feeling. A sanctuary for us to say anything we want about anything. Some bloggers I knew even confess that they are cranky and babbling only in their blog. In real life, they were as cheerful as a cheerleader. This proved that blogging itself is a therapy session.. minus the fees

Conclusion – Never look down on your blog. It is the only corner you have in this world that belong to you. You might not notice, but you are so much livelier and happier with it.

————— Personal Note ————————–
I truly believe that there are a lot of mentally disturbed people out there. 12 years old killing an 11 years old by stabbing her 20 odds time, and when asked he said that he didn’t know why he did that. 12 years old for crying out loud. And this happened 5 years ago, in our beloved Malaysia.. If 12 years old is capable of such things… who can say the adults will be any better.The problem is too many emotion is kept inside. Too many things in the mind. With no way out… Hopefully blogging will help

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There Should Be No Other Opinion But Mine – WRONG

22 Jul Idea / Mind Hack 12 comments

Summary – Another mind set that require some change, that “our opinion is the only opinion”

Some of my friends did ask me some questions. I graduated in Chemical Engineering from University of PETRONAS, so why didn’t I apply for a job in chemical plant or offshore oil rig. Instead I am working in a palm oil mill. They looked at me as if I had been a failure and that chemical engineering from PETRONAS MUST work in an oil rig, and nothing less.

We Malay, will have a long way to go to have a world class mind if this is the kind of mentality our graduates have.

What in your opinion is the definition of success? It is my believe that the answer is very subjective and it varies from one person to another. So why is it that we have to judge people using our own definition. Our understanding of the word “success” may not be the same way other people understand “success”

Parents in the early years of their children had told them the meaning of success is measured in term of career they will end up. They implanted the idea that successful people are those working as doctors, engineers and lawyers. In a way, this is quite a good method, because it will give the children some direction to work on. But the parents should in time tell the children to find their very own definition of success. please don’t raise them believing that if they are not lawyers, engineers or doctors, they are a failure. Don’t use the same definition of success to the children. They may not be lawyers but maybe they will become a businessman instead. “Datuk lagi” huhu

Anyway… Success for me is how you achieve what you aim. So what do I achieve with my current job?

My house is just 1km from my workplace. I have never experience traffic jam, tolls and road accidents (touch wood), I can have breakfast, lunch and tea with my wife everyday (of course dinner also), I can even go back to sleep during my lunch break comfortably on my bed,

I only answer to one person, which is the mill manager (no politics whatsoever), I knew exactly what should I do to be promoted, in term of requirements etc (I’ve seen some engineers that have worked so long but canot be promoted simply because no vacancy)

True that I may not get paid as handsomely as others, but look at what they’ve been missing. People are given each 24 hours a day, In the end it will all add up. Gain something and loses another.

The best thing about my work is that I enjoyed it. Isn’t this the most important things?

Anyone else have had experience alike? being force to believe in something?

————— Personal Note ————————–
My dad had also tried to suggest our future career. I’m supposed to be a lawyer, My second brother – an architect and my third – a doctor. We have no idea then what the job will require us to do, but it did in a way give us a sense of direction. So I’m not really against parent putting ideas in their children head. Because if not, it may soon be corrupted by fellow friends anyway. It’s just that the parents should be open minded and respect the choice their children took (of course only after they were able to know bad from good, “akil baligh”)

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Look East Policy

19 Jul Idea / Mind Hack 7 comments

Summary – A Japanese culture we need to follow

My brother once studied in Japan. And he told me interesting stories about the culture there. Believe me that not all of them is good. But one culture does fascinate me.

“When ever a Japanese eat at a street stall, and if he like the food, he will go meet the chef after he had finished his dinner and say “Your food is so delicious” (Of course in Japanese). The chef will obviously feel happier.”

This is one noble culture we should start practising ourselves. Don’t be shy to give appreciation if the person deserve it. Do we lose anything when we do that? No, in fact we gain a lot of things; new friends, better services next time and of course a smile.

Our culture however is very different.

“Since we are paying for the service, they were the one who must treat us like king. The chef must come and greet us. If the food is good, maybe we’ll come again. But if the food was not good, you just wait!!!”

————— Personal Note ————————–
I actually did apply this once in a while. Usually I will go to the cashier and say “the food is delicious I will definitely come back”. The cashier was so surprised she don’t know how to respond.Now aren’t we Malay were supposed to be famous for our courtesy (budi bahasa), Why was she so shocked?

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A Personal Letter For You – The Conclusion

09 Jul Idea / Mind Hack 13 comments

Yesterday, with the help of my fellow readers, I have successfully run an experiment to illustrate how our mind is more opened to a suggestion when it is personalized. If you are interested, you can read about the experiment here.

First of all, I would like to thank all my good friends who assisted me in this humble research of mine. Some even send me messages via friendster . Appreciate all the help and only Allah can repay your kindness.

A question was asked, whether or not the letter I wrote describe you perfectly and this is to be answered in term of percentage. 15 friends participated and the average percentage of all of their answer is 74.67%

A better way to describe it is that out of 4 person asked, 3 would say it describe them 100%.

I obviously don’t know you. so how come some of you totally connect with the letter? Here’s why

1) The letter was written FOR you

Firstly, it is because you believed that the letter was totally written for you. And that I am your best friend in real life and know you by heart. Once you have establish this in your mind, it is always easier for the mind to associate what I wrote with yourself.

This had been widely used in the whole world. The best example would be the horoscope. People are categorized according to their DOB with mythical creature as a symbol. This subconciously had opened our mind that everything said about that particular group (capricorn, sagitarius etc) is very true. People sometimes follow the advice given by the horoscope religiously.

Do try yourself, read ALL the horoscope, with an open mind… don’t you think all advice and description do seem true at one point?

2) We are never alone

Most importantly, I would like to stress that everyone and I mean everyone is given the same package of emotion. Everyone at one point in his life will experience anger, frustration, loneliness, boredom, happy, hypocrite. What ever feeling exist in the dictionary (good or bad) is already included in the package. The difference are just maybe the experience associated and the intensity of the feeling.

Some live their life with the feeling anger buried deep down in their heart, some shows them once a while, some was walking with the word “anger” written in the forehead. So everybody can be described as angry.

“So? what’s your point?”, you may asked… My point is this – We can be seen as a very social kind of person with friends around anytime of the day, but deep down we SUFFER / ENJOY our feeling alone. The truth is, we are never alone. and don’t ever think that nobody will understand you. You must understand yourself first.

Let say, you want to share and describe the sweet taste of a banana to your African friend, you must first taste the banana before you describe it. Otherwise you will think that nobody really know a banana.

Do you know that almost all suicide case in the whole world began with the thought of being completely alone and that nobody will understand him/her.

This is basically my own thought and I am no psychologist. So feel free to disagree with me. Hopefully together we will better understand ourselves. Or maybe you guys can draw any other conclusion from the research. Please share it here.

————— Personal Note ————————–
I suddenly remember the movie “Buli” played by my favorite actor Afdlin Shauki. In the movie, the doctor (Nasha Aziz) said “being a psychologist in Malaysia is very hard. People here don’t like to admit that they have a problem psychologically.” So it’s not a surprise, children for no apparent reason was killed and charred remains were thrown away to four places (check the news for more info) nowadays. I pray the person who did this be caught and cut into 4 pieces.On a happier note, one scene in the movie did bring back the smile on me.
Patient : (dibalut seluruh badannya) Tapi doktor saya demam je
Doctor : Takpe kite balut dulu

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