Assalamualaikum guys.. As you may be aware, I just returned from my “Balik Kampung” trip to Kedah. My bus was scheduled to arrive at 12.00 am. So, as always the mrs and I came a bit earlier at around 11.45pm. When I approached the counter, the attendant told me that there may be a bit delay to the bus arrival as the bus just arrived in Alor Setar. I fully understand that. It’s very hard to organize such dynamic arrangements. So I asked her when would the bus arrived here. She told me very convincingly that by 12.45am, the bus will arrive. “That’s fair” I thought to myself, so both of us help ourself with late supper and chat to kill the time.
By 1am, the bus was still no where to be seen. I again approached the counter and asked the whereabout. To my surprise, the girl just smile and said “Biasalah, janji melayu.. katanya tak jalan lagi dari alor setar” I was really shocked. My wife was so furious she claim want to kick the poor flower vase at the place. (which I doubt will break and will only hurt her leg heheh)
So what is this “Janji Melayu”? Yes, I’m familiar with the term. It is when we promise to do something at a specific time but almost very sure will not follow the time.
Why do “Melayu” associated with this type of attitude? Are we proud having this attitude? Where nobody will take our words seriously..Where our words actually is worthless.
For those who read this, Malay or Non-Malay, can I assume that you are at least have some interest in improving yourself? We need to change this term “Janji Melayu”. Forget about everyone else. We are the one who must first change. When we promise something… Let us make sure that the promise is well kept.
If we say, tomorrow at 7am, we will wait at someplace, let the other person know that, that WILL SURELY HAPPEN. To change a culture is not an easy thing to do. But we can surely change our attitude. Once that changed, show other people the importance of that change. Don’t aim to change the attitude of the whole company or university just yet. Aim small. Maybe with your friends.
It is my believe that we are given “akal” to guide the rest of our organs (~hands, leg, eye, and especially mouth) to do good. If our mouth utter words that is worthless. What’s the difference between us and those without “akal”
————— Personal Note ————————–
Do excuse today’s entry which is a bit personal and emotional. Can you blame me? I fully understand that sometime the unexpected happens. And sometime, we can plan all we want but it is always up to Him in the end. I’m just very frustrated when promise now doesn’t carry any value at all and they expect me to accept that. Oh ya, the bus arrived at 2.00 am
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I understand what you trying to highlight. It concern me too. But I did it actually intentionally. As you can see, the topic here sometimes are quite heavy. So I am actually giving some space to maybe digest or at least review some topics.
