The 6 Critical Mistakes Done After A Mistake Was Done

“Banji.. have you put on your belt?”
“Yes, mother.”
“Banji.. are you sure?”
“Yes, mother.. you can see it for yourself”, I said while showing the belt I was wearing.
“HAHAHAHAHA.. I was referring to the seatbelt”. And all passengers in the car laughed at me. Guess what, it’s been 20 over years, and my mother still bring up that incident once in a while. 🙂

/end memory

Nobody likes making mistakes. However our life today can only be better if we learn from the mistake we did yesterday. There is also no way we can be 100% free from making mistakes. So we might as well just accept the fact that we will make mistake and keep learning from it throughout our life.

I believe that there is however another set of mistakes that we need to avoid at all cost – The mistakes we do after making mistakes. Enlisted below are some of the most common mistakes we usually do after making mistakes.

1) Refuse to admit that mistakes had been done

Some people are so egoistic that they will never accept the fact that they had made a mistake. For this type of people, mistakes are signs of weakness and being the egoist that they are, they will never admit to that.

Another type of people who fall into this category is those who were always in denial after a mistake has been made. They are so afraid of making mistakes that they deny the mistake ever happened. These are not the kind of people you want to be around with.

How can we learn from our mistakes if we never actually admit there was one?

2) Try to forget the mistakes

Some mistakes are embarassingly painful. These will usually be buried deep down in our memory with the hope that it will be forgotten. Personally, trying to forget our mistake is a very stupid move. If we forget it, it will be like buying a hideous van and burn it down right away. People will never notice the van but your money spent to buy the van is loss forever. Don’t you value your money?

3) Blame self or others.

This habit has become sort of a built-in habit to everyone. Once a mistake was done, the first thing people will do is to find whose fault it is. It will never serve any function except the illusion that the mistake has been solved. It can be important however to do this if finding the fault will solve the problem.

The worst case scenario is when we are blaming ourselves for the mistake. Once we do this, believe me, there’s no way out. Our mind will use all of its resource to further punish ourselves for the mistake. It will be like a black hole with no way out. Don’t go there.

4) No room for forgiveness.

This is sort of related to point 3. But it is very significant that it deserve its own number. Forgiveness is always the hardest thing to do. We can say anything, read all the books but when your life was screwed up by a person, it will be very hard to forgive him.

That is why, we need to have that room in our heart for forgiveness. Set up this room in our heart. We don’t necessarily need to forgive him right away, but knowing that there’s a room in there for forgiveness will definitely help later on.

5) Justify mistakes

Very similar to point number 1, the person who make this mistake will come up with justification as to why a mistake was made. Remember the girl who cried wolf? She might made a mistake the first time thinking that she saw a wolf. And when the villagers came she made excuses that she was just fooling around. You know how it ended.

Justifying mistakes does not make the mistake go away. It will not help you learn from it either.

6) Refuse to analyze your mistake

Being an engineer, when a problem / mistake occurs in an operation, the first step is always “redefining the problem”. Let say an operator forgot to switch on a pump and ruined the whole operation. I can straight away scold him or give him a warning letter. But this will not solve the problem. If he can forget the first time, the chances are he will forget it again later.

I should study if there were any possibility the pump can be run automatically and thus removing the problem altogether. Or maybe put up a checklist to help the operator remember.

Analyzing mistake is the most important things to do right after a mistake has been made. If not the mistake made will serve no purpose and you will find that your life is just one big boring loop where the same mistake is being repeated everyday

– I wonder –
What’s your biggest shareable mistake in your life?

———– Personal Note ————–
My biggest shareable mistake in life is when I was in my final year. I literally spent all my time chatting on IRC. I failed a subject and did poorly on others. That for me is my most expensive lesson in life.

I made a lot of good friends though.. I just need to manage my priorities better.

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I wrote two entries today – Improve Studying With The Theory of Three and this personal rant.

This is just a followup of my research on P1W1max. Unfortunately my area is not yet covered by wimax, so I will present it here based on what I read in LYN Forum etc.


Generally most of the subscriber are getting what they pay for. An example is like the above screenshot. The download speed is at 1370 kbps and the upload speed is at 709 kbps. This is from one who subscribes to 1200kbps package. In fact the subscribers are actually getting more than what they pay for.

I’m sure the figure will be affected once there are too many subscribers in the area. However, it is said that once the base station had received 80% load, they will setup a new base station. If that promise is kept, nobody will suffer a slow connection again.


A lot of users are expressing concern about their setting the limit of bandwidth to 20GB per month. Even though this is extremely sufficient for normal internet users, heavy downloaders will be affected. But on the positive side, users will be assured of maximum speed since the ISP will be able to predict the bandwidth usage and upgrade accordingly.


  • Online streaming tested ok
  • Online gaming tested ok
  • P2P using utorrent tested ok

Customer Service

Excellent. The customer service technician are well verse with the issues arised, and they are attending to the problem relatively fast. They even send SMS to inform of any upgrade being done.

Conclusion – A service we received will always be as good as the money we pay. But from what I read in the forum, there are a lot of positive review of this wimax. Now, if only they can expedite their nationwide coverage…

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The Theory of Three

Summary – One way to click with your mind.

One of the most sought after knowledge is on how to understand the human mind. It takes hundred of years for people to get a grasp of its true potential and yet we are still scratching the surface. That being said, I’m going to introduce you to one theory of mind utilization which is The Theory of Three.

Just like a radio that will only produce clear sound when you tune it specifically to, let say, 100.1MHz, the mind will also work at its best efficiency if you know how to finetune it. And in this specific case, one way of finetuning your mind is via The Theory of Three.

What Is Theory of Three

Basically the theory states that our mind works best when it is associated with the number three.

The best way to explain the theory is by examples. Just have a look at the world’s famous three; “The Three Stooges”, “The Charmed Ones”, “Do Re Mi”, “The Three Musketeers”, “Location Location Location”, “Just Do It”, “As easy as A B C”, “On the count of three 1 2 3”. These are a few of phrase and title that comes in three.

All of them are very catchy, very easy to remember and very popular. Imagine changing the phrase to “The Stooge”, “Re”, “Do It”, “As easy as B C” and “On The Count Of 56”. The phrase will not be appealing now wouldn’t it?

This is how The Theory of Three works. By changing the form of your thoughts into another form that is associated with the number three, you are actually finetuning your thoughts making it more catchy and more effective.

How To Apply The Theory of Three

1) Change your life motto. Motto like “I’m going to be the no 1 student of this class” will not work. Use motto such as “No 1 Student”

2) Repeat important keywords three times. If you are going to remind yourself to study, Repeat the words “Study Study Study”. It will have more impact than just the one word.

3) Reorganize your subject in three. Always read three chapters of your subject every day. And rearrange the notes in each chapter into three different groups. Do this until you can actually see your three chapters in your head with all the three branches. Memorizing three chapters? Not a problem anymore

4) Better headline for reports. If your assignment require you to come up with a title. Try to adjust it to utilize this theory of three. Instead of “The Complete Study of Human”, try “The Mind, Body & Soul – A Study”. Your assignment will immediately stand out from the crowd.

Conclusion – Applying The Theory of Three is only limited by your imagination. You can always find other ways to utilize this technique and make everything in your life comes as easy as A B C 🙂

– I Wonder –
Anything else comes to your mind that utilizes The Theory of Three?

———- Personal Note ———–
One of my favorite books during my childhood (10 years old) is a local book “3 Penyiasat” (3 Investigators). It is a story of 3 teenagers that often come across a crime case and successfully solve it. I still remember their name – Jalil, Gopal and Ah Meng.

Somehow the books had inspired me to start my own investigating club. We were supposed to investigate the claim that there was a ghost in our school. But of course in the end, the club just got deactivated because everyone was equally scared 🙂

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Detailing Your Life With Keywords Approach

Summary – “Job Safety Analysis” for life

I once did my internship at a Petrochemical plant in Kerteh, Malaysia. I was there for about 8 months. It was a dream come true for any engineering students to work there. Where else can you see all the theories previously learnt applied.

I had also been introduced to a lot of Engineering procedure and there was one that had caught my attention to be applied to my real life. It’s called Job Safety Analysis (JSA)

Job Safety Analysis – A brief introduction

Bear with me as I briefly explained this procedure. JSA is a compulsory procedure to be done at the beginning of any major works. For example, let say I am to install a new pipeline for a pressure vessel. I will call up a meeting with other engineers in which we will discuss the safety aspect of the work. What make this procedure interesting is that, the safety meeting will be based only on specific keywords. Nothing else.

One words will be taken from group 1 such as : Over, Under, High, Low, No etc (There are actually quite a few, but I’m putting only these five to ease understanding)

Another words are taken from group 2 such as : Pressure, Flow, Temperature etc

In a JSA, the engineers will combine the two words from each group to become words like overpressure, underpressure, high temperature and so on. We will then discuss what are the safety precaution available or to be made available in case of overpressure, underpressure etc (until all the keywords are exhausted).

I hope you understand the procedure up to now. I guess the whole objective of discussing things based on keywords is to avoid forgetting any of them. When one’s life is at risk, it is always a good thing to be extra careful.

Applying JSA in real life

Such a procedure will only make the job more complicated but the benefit from it will outweigh all the work done. So I’m thinking, maybe we can apply JSA to our real life.

Road Accident
If for example you are in a bus, and in 5 seconds the bus is going to topple to its right, what will you do? What if it topples to the left? What will you hold on to? Where’s the emergency exit? You can apply JSA here by planning ahead for every scenarios that can happen in an accident.

Some suggestion of keywords that can be used are topple, breakdown, robbery, unconcious driver.

Natural Disaster
Do you know what’s the first thing you should do if your house is on fire? Which documents are important, and which are not? Or maybe your house is flooded, how will you kickstart your life?

Some suggestion of keywords are Flood, Fire, Earthquake, Lost, Documents.

These two are just a few examples of how to apply JSA in real life. However, utilizing keywords in our life goes beyond safety and health. You can also come up with keywords like

  • Money, Time, Friends – What will you do when there are too much or too little of them?
  • Anger, Jealousy, Hate – When it will be fine to have them?
  • The Wife, The Mother, The Father – What will you do if one of them is sad? What makes them happy?

Conclusion – There are infinite amount of scenarios that can happen. To plan for every one of them will require a few thousands years (plus and minus). So don’t do all of them. Just choose the most important ones like accidents, emergencies. List down all the keywords related to the scenarios and write away.

Don’t you think it will be cool if you are the one person in an accident who actually save the whole passengers of the bus 🙂

– I wonder –
Anybody reading have had an accident before. Care to share your experience?

————- Personal Note ————-
I will never forget mine for the rest of my life. I was driving very late at night. And to make it worse, I am not at all familiar with the road. It was very snaky and I was driving relatively fast for a snaky dark road. I know that there’s a T-Junction at the end of the road and I will be taking a left turn there.

The details was quite blurry but suddenly I was at the T-Junction and I was still driving straight and crossed the road altogether. Luckily there’s a building in front with a parking lot. I was able to stop just in time. My heart was pounding fast. If there were cars or lorries on the road at the time, I will not be here writing this for you. From that time on, I have promised myself that I will stop the car and take a nap whenever I feel sleepy. No discussion.

So everyone.. Drive safe kay

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