Mother's Love

Summary – Happy Mother’s Day

For those who just tune in, my wife is now in her 38th week of pregnancy. We are expecting our first son or daughter any day now :).

This is my first time having to cope with all the pregnancy scenario (not that I’m pregnant of course, my wife is). I must say that I am really amazed with what all women have to go through. Seriously..

Take a look at my wife for instance

1) The pain.
I don’t know about other women, but my wife is always in pain especially towards the end. Maybe because this is her first time. But still, the pain’s there. Her back aches, her tummy stretched, headache. It looks like a real package. However, she patiently bear it all, knowing that it’s a price to pay for the happiness that comes with it.

To make it worse she is now having toothache

2) No more a shy girl.
Just like all other first timer, she has a lot of questions. Luckily for her, she has a sister that had had the experience. So anytime she has any questions, she will call her sister up and ask. This happen quite a lot of time, and I know for certain that she just put away all her embarassment to be the best mother for our baby.

I guess I became the more embarassed one 🙂

3) Stretch her limits.
She apparently is lactose intolerant, which in English means she will upset her stomach if she drink milk. Really upset, she even shed a few tears one day from the pain. We only know this after a few experiment and a trip to the doctor. The amazing thing is even after she knew she need to avoid milk, she still want to endure it by diluting the milk with water just to get the calcium for the baby. Obviously the baby is all she care about.

Some say drinking a lot of milk will make the baby fairer. I wonder if it’s true.

4) The discomfort.
I recently learnt that pregnant women in their late trimester are not advised to sleep facing up. It will have some effect to the baby. Imagine you have to sleep in just one or two position. Imagine the discomfort. I can only imagine and still I don’t like that feeling.

Unlike other discomfort, this one doesn’t go away, she has to endure it for the whole 9 months. How she manage to stay calm and sane should really be one of the wonders of the world. Impressive.

5) The unstable hormone.
I experienced this first hand (Again, not that I have unstable hormone, my wife does). I just cannot take things to heart this time around. But this is not about me. It amazes me how hormone works. One moment she is laughing, then suddenly everything I said upsets her even more. Somehow she still care for people around her, especially the baby and of course me. Hm the selflessness.

If it was me suffering the hormone imbalance, you will notice them in the blog 🙂

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I am not even mentioning the future experience of delivering the baby. The fear and the pain alone are unthinkable.

The fact is, every mother around the world go through the exact same thing. Knowing this, don’t you think that mothers all around the world deserve more than just appreciation once a year on Mother’s Day?

Today is Mother’s Day here in Malaysia. And if you still have a mother, the least you can do is

  • Call her over the phone
  • Thank her for all she did for you
  • Apologize if you ever hurt her feeling
  • Say that you love her
  • Hang up the phone
  • Figure out how to appreciate her more

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers, especially the mrs 🙂

365 days ag0, I wrote Exercise Like Mad, But No Result.. Why? 

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Bottle of Water

Summary – To spend your money, you must first know where it is.

I was having tea as usual yesterday at the canteen when suddenly I realize that I have no recollection when is it that I started having tea. I guess it goes way back to my studying time.

Assuming I have tea every day since 1996, and each cup of tea cost about 50 cents, that would add up to $180 per year. And if I save that 50 cents in a bank with 4% compounded interest, by end of this year I will have an extra $3100.

That money is more than enough for me to take the mrs for another honeymoon in Langkawi 🙂

But nothing good can come from regretting the past. If I want to do anything, I should be doing it with what I have now. So I come up with a mission.

From now on, I will bring along a bottle of water whenever I go to work. And when I go to take my breakfast, I will only drink water from the bottle. No more going to the canteen, just to buy canned drink when I’m thirsty.

Roughly calculated, I usually go to the canteen at least twice daily. One for breakfast and another just for a quick drink on a hot day. Assuming I’m saving $1.50 everyday, by the end of the year, I will have an extra $500 every year just from that alone.

The money can be used to hire designer to renovate the blog design, or to aggresively promote the blog, or as a prize for blog’s contest and of course for blog maintenance.

I think it might just work. What do you think?

The actual message of today’s article.
If you want to spend on something, make sure you know where the money will come from. Don’t just subscribe to your favorite magazine, apply for personal loan, buy a car without even knowing how to pay for it. You must know from where you can get that spending money (maybe from your increment, or annual bonus etc). If you don’t bother to figure this out, you will end up bankrupt in no time.

——- Personal Note ——-
My mill is actually undergoing its annual inspection. It is now not operating until the 12th of May where an officer from the Department of Safety and Health will inspect and approve the mill’s operation.

Due to that, I am relatively busier these few days. And with the hot weather, no wonder I’m beginning to frequent the canteen a bit more than my average 🙂

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Things To Do

Summary – The Trap of Things-To-Do

Do you consider yourself as an organized person? Or at least a person who is attempting to organize his/her life? If you do, there is one trap we may have fallen into. The trap of Things-To-Do.

Things to do is not something new when it comes to getting things done or organizing. In fact, it is one of the basis of the concept. If you want to get things done, you need to come up with a to-do list.

But what will happen when you see everythings in life as a things-to-do? What if all you are doing through out your day is a task? Some examples are like when you even view your family time as a task. And you will stop spending time with them after an hour to focus on other things.

Or you allocate specific time to call your parents to say hi (Maybe every Saturday 12pm). And you find it disturbing if the parent call you when it is still not the time. Deep down you are blaming them for messing your schedule

I know, you may wonder, do such people exist? The truth is, they do. Not in such extreme cases though.

How do you know you are one of them?
Simple.. it is when you never satisfy with your life. Or you suffer the same frustration of not finishing your work even after your working hour. Or you are feel tired most of the time for no apparent reason. If these describe you, I’m sorry to inform you that you have fallen into the trap. Everything you do is work for you.

How do you get out of the trap
1) Determine whether you’re already trapped or not
This is a routine step 1. In order to solve a problem, we must know that we have a problem.

2) Add 25% free time in your schedule
When we have 18 hours everyday (assuming we sleep 6 hours), Free up 4.5 hours for us to do anything we want. It may be anything as long as it’s not work.

3) Be flexible
By flexible, it means that the previous 4.5 hours may not necessary be 4.5 hours every day. If you want, take a day off for yourself sometimes. Get in bed with a thick book to read.

However, being flexible itself is quite dangerous. You must know how flexible to be. Things will backfire if you are too flexible with your time, up to the point that nothing is being done. The keyword is always “finding balance”

4) Do something spontaneous
Take a road trip to a place 2 hours drive from your house. Spend sometimes there, snap some pictures and return home. The whole point is to mess your schedule once a month. This way, your mind will be trained to accept the idea of not completing work gradually.

5) Mingle with people
Another unmentioned sign of people trapped in the things-to-do trap is when they prefer to be alone rather than with friends / family. This way they think they can finish up more work. Take some time to hang out with friends. Go for a drink with them. Your mind need this more than you do.

6) Take up bigger project
Imagine a college proffesor. Proffesors are supposed to be one of the most brilliant mind on earth and we expect them to come up with better ideas or solve problems. Now imagine they’re living their life solely to teach students. No research done. Just plain teaching day in day out. Don’t you think that will be a waste of brilliant minds?

They still need to teach the students, nobody else can do that. But who will solve our global problems like global warming etc if not them?

Take up project for you to do. Maybe try to be more active in your support to your political party etc. Bigger thing for you to spend time on.

7) Revise all this
This is however the most important steps. As you can probably see, all the 6 suggestion in the list will help our mind to not view life as one big to-do-list. That’s really the whole idea.

However, in reality we still need to get things done for us to accomplish more in life. So revise all the list and check whether or not you are still able to finish up your important things-to-do. Try to find the balance between the two.

If you manage to do just that, trust me on this. You will live a happier life, with less stress and frustration from not finishing work,

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– I wonder –
Anybody find this familiar?

——- Personal Note ——–
The mrs is now in her 38th week of pregnancy. If for some reason you see the blog without update for some time, most probably she is delivering the baby, and I’m there with her. Please be patient then kay?

Excited, Scared, Smiling, Worried – All these emotion in one time, no wonder most parent is suffering hypertension 🙂

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Immortal Wisdom

Today is a special day. Exactly 365 days ago, this blog was launched. Yes friends, LessonInLife is now one year old. Definitely the best 365 days of my life.

Immortal Wisdom
Let me just quickly recap the incredible journey this blog had undergone. At first, it was hosted by blogspot – Immortal Wisdom. Back then, I really love the idea of being an immortal, where you will live forever and thus will have the capacity of learning everything there is to know about life. There’s just so much to learn. Still love the idea though.

I was fortunate enough to be introduced to some of the most supportive bloggers around during my early days of blogging. These friends had been supporting all the way with their comments and words. If not because of these, I’m not sure the blog will be bere now. Thank you guys.

LessonInLife
On October 22nd 2007, LessonInLife was registered. It was a daring move for me since I know nothing about hosting then. But I can see the potential of the blog, and thus I know this is the next proper thing to do.

Today, LessonInLife is being read by about 150 loyal readers DAILY and the number is improving consistently. Yes, that’s you..

The Key of LessonInLife
It’s you. Thank you guys. I really appreciate your support. Trust me when I say that it is YOUR support that is driving me to write everyday. And I will continue to do my best to make your support here worth it.

The Birthday Wish
Usually a birthday boy will have his wish granted isn’t it? Can I make a wish on behalf of the blog? I wish to know all my readers. So if you’re reading this, would you mind dropping a few comments here. Let’s become friends 🙂

Come to think about it, today is never about LessonInLife being one year old. It is more about appreciating you, my friends.. So enjoy your day today. And here’s to another good year ahead for us all.

Today in history
Bismillah – The first post


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