Summary – Why do things that do not make any sense in a relationship?
It’s a typical love story. Boy meets Girl, Boy fall in love with Girl, Boy don’t know how to treat Girl, Boy and Girl break up.
The break up can be due to a lot of reasons. I am going to use this scenario though to elaborate.
In the mind of the Boy :”I must not show that I’m weak, she will never like me if I’m weak. I shouldn’t say that I love her. That is a sign of weakness and romantic. No girls will like me then.”
In the mind of the Girl :”All I need is a small gesture of affection. Does he even like me? He doesn’t even say hi to me when we met just now. Am I wasting my time waiting for him to approach me?”
Does this relationship makes sense to you?
Why do we do things that do not make any sense. If the boy really likes the girl, he should have said so. Or at least gave out hints of his feeling. Pretending that she does not exist just to look cool in front of her doesn’t make sense at all.
The Bigger Application
No worries. Almost everyone will do things that do not make any sense every once in a while. Some typical examples of things we do in a relationship that do not make sense are such as:
- You love the spouse but you never show that you love her.
- You miss her so much but you never call her.
- You do everything to get her to love you, but when she completely in love with you, you take her for granted.
- You said nothing is more important than her, but every chance you have, you will run to your computer replying emails and comments on blog.
I don’t think I need to put it in words that this applies to both man and woman. We do a lot of things that do not make any sense in our relationship. We should take note of them and do something about it.
Change a few things in your relationship today that will make more sense to you. If you love her, tell her exactly that. Don’t hide that emotion from her.
If you want him to adore you, be someone he can adore. He will just be annoyed if you keep annoying him. It’s as simple as that.
– I wonder –
What else doesn’t make sense in a relationship?
———— Personal Note ————
During my early days of blogging, I must admit that I had some trouble balancing my time between blogging and family. Fortunately for me, the mrs was very understanding and supportive. I quickly learnt my lesson and adjust accordingly.
In the end, nothing is more important than family.
Photo Credit – DerrickT