Summary – How Friday prayer highlighted the importance of listening.

Thanx for those who replied to my question in the previous entry. It is really a difficult question, I must say… to figure out what to say to the world. And the fact that the world is listening is not really helping.

If for example, you are asked to speak to thousands of people on a gathering, and you know for certain they will not be listening. Maybe you speak in another language, or that the microphone is faulty. I believe you will be able to kill the time effectively with your speech. Am I correct?

The fact is, listening to what people say is actually 40 times more important than giving the speech. Why 40? This is my personal opinion. If we look into the Friday prayer (for muslim), one of the condition that must be fulfilled for the prayer to be valid (sah) is to have 1 person delivering the “khutbah”, and 40 people actually listen and understand the “khutbah”. If only 39 people listen, then technically the whole group’s solat will not be valid.

There is no survey to check after the solat whether there is enough 40 people, or 40 people assigned to really listen. It really comes down to the individuals. They should know better that the “khutbah” is given to be listened and understood. Nobody should enforce you to listen.

Then there is a “hadis” always read before the “khutbah” saying that you must not speak during the khutbah, even with the intention to shh others. My personal interpretation on this is that, even if you are not listening, you must not interfere with other people who does. The message must always be respected. It took great courage to speak, advising and teaching people. If we disrespect the action, sooner or later, there will be no person to teach or advise. Think of the chaos that will do.

I’m not saying that we must be silent everytime other spoke. Both speaking and listening is important, that is without one of them, the Solat will not be valid. I’m just saying that listening really is 40 times more important.

Hopefully those who read this, will understand (listen to) the message.

————— Personal Note ————————–
I’m not trying to boast about what I do, but people do come to me asking my opinion on things, usually it’s relationship based. Not that I’m an expert. It’s just that I learnt from other people’s experience and make it a personal lesson for me.

The thing is, the people who I had previously advised on a problem, usually will come across the same problem over and over again. They just won’t listen. Yes, I completely understand that my opinion may not be the best, but he/she should at least listen and think about it. Not later come to me and say, “I should listen to you”.

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  1. Noushy Syah
    03 Aug 07 8:41 pm

    I recalled a Msian saying ‘bagai mencurah air didaun keladi’…that’s how importance the art of listening!

    Anyone could speak and give a speech on certain topics or issues,and pple could be there watch & hear what been said, but not everyone listens to what been said!!

    It takes more than interests,when listening to others…the contents, presentations and also attitude!!

    p/s some pple has trouble in staying motivated even after been advised many times simply because they don’t have purpose or objective in life!..that’s why they won’t listen..only with meaningful purpose will come the energy to follow and listen to what been said.

    Thanks Banji.

  2. pocket
    03 Aug 07 10:57 pm

    hell i dont have anything to comment
    on ‘listen’ other than my supplier
    who dont listen to the request i’ve
    given them…
    How to learn a new language.
    u start by listening…
    then observing…
    then trying (to speak)
    its not the other away around.
    n believe me.. if u dont listen…
    the idea of speaking in other tongue is a far far away dream.

    i guess thats goes the same with advice.

  3. Banji
    04 Aug 07 1:09 am

    noushy – the idiom does describe ppl who incapable of listening very graphically.

    its also true that those with no sense of direction, usually dont want to change, thus keep a closed mind, rejecting every word ppl offered to them.

    a similar english idiom if im not mistaken would be – fall on deaf ear,

  4. Banji
    04 Aug 07 1:15 am

    pocket – as a matter of fact, that is a great comment. no wonder im still nowhere with my japanese, i remember buying the book when u first went to japan, no improvement at all eheh. i guess i approached it wrongly. need to listen first.. thanx bro

  5. iEn
    04 Aug 07 8:36 am

    xleh gark baca kuat2.. kene kusyuk dengor gokk tok kadi bace ceramah heheehe

  6. Banji
    04 Aug 07 9:07 am

    ien – hehe tok kadi bagi ceramah.. thats funny

    jadi sesapa yg bercakap ttg islam, terus jadi tok kadi lah ye. no wonder lah org makin malu bercakap ttg islam 🙂 funny

  7. Jim
    05 Aug 07 2:30 am

    If we look into the Friday prayer (for muslim), one of the condition that must be fulfilled for the prayer to be valid (sah) is to have 1 person delivering the “khutbah”, and 40 people actually listen and understand the “khutbah”. If only 39 people listen, then technically the whole group’s solat will not be valid.

    what is the percentage of muslims in your country?

    r u muslim?

  8. Banji
    05 Aug 07 3:22 am

    jim – im not sure of the exact figure, but iianm the pc should be around 55pc.

    yes i am a muslim,

    hows india like?

  9. filantera
    06 Aug 07 12:54 am

    nicely done bro, and they also said that person who go to friday prayer but unable to listen to khutbah is like tak-payah-pi-pun-takpa hehehhe

    i remember three teenagers, sitting right beside mimbar, standing up right when the imam read khutbah for aidilfitri prayer hehheheh

  10. Banji
    06 Aug 07 2:25 am

    filantera – n to top that up, tokteh said – ‘tgk cucu kak aishah tu, baik2 je’ eheh

    at least sejak ari tu x pernah miss dah kan huhu

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