Summary – Everything is important.. The question is to whom?

I apologize for the long disappearance. As you may have known, I’m actually going to be a father any day now :). So, there a lot of things to do and to prepare. Again please accept my apology.

The other day, during the routine checkup, my wife was sent to the hospital due to some suspected problem. Believe it or not, we were there from 4pm to 11pm just to find out that everything is ok.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind waiting as long as the baby is fine. And I totally understand that my wife’s case can be considered as having the least priority since she’s just there for a further examination. It may be considered not important for the doctors, but to me, she is the most important. And that is why I don’t mind waiting that 7 hours.

Through out our life, we will face a lot of similar cases. Hundreds of things to do in so little hour. And there’s no other way to do this but to prioritize and do those that are more important first. We just can’t do everything in the same time. But still, that least important thing, may be the most important thing to somebody else.

  • A short nap to someone who has been working 48 hours straight. Other people may see taking a short nap is not important, but to that person, he may get very upset if he just can’t get that sleep
  • Spending time together with your husband. For the husband he may feel that it is not necessary since they are living in the same house. She can meet him anytime. So he brings back work from the office. However, for the wife, the most important thing is she need that after-work time to maybe watch a movie together etc. This is what important to her.

Conclusion – What seems to be not important to us, may very well be the only thing that is important to someone else. We just need to consider that.

– I wonder –
Any other scenario that shows exactly this?

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  1. 03 May 08 9:48 pm

    [Iā€™m actually going to be a father any day now]

    Congrats! Don’t think I am going to have that chance myself. -_-

    [Any other scenario that shows exactly this?]

    My girl friend complains that I seldom or do not talk to her. We have been living together in my parent’s house for quite some time.

    We see each other everyday, watch movie everyday.

    Initially, she threw fits because I spent too much time outside the room as my gaming rig is just outside our room.

    So nowadays I spend most of my time in the room with her when she is at home.

    She still complains that I seldom or do not talk to her. -_-

  2. banji
    04 May 08 12:34 am

    Deimos Tel`Arin – Thank you for the wish.. I’m sure you will have that chance šŸ™‚

    Hm about your girlfriend, I personally think that she may have a different definition of talking (communicating) to her. Maybe she wants you to pay more attention to her, or proactively do the thing she likes. These are all just a wild guess.

    Try to ask her what exactly her definition of communication. It may help šŸ™‚ Good luck!

  3. filantera`
    05 May 08 11:48 am

    another example:D


  4. banji
    05 May 08 11:24 pm

    filantera – stop for a while and smile? hmm you lost me there

  5. 07 May 08 1:50 pm

    [Maybe she wants you to pay more attention to her, or proactively do the thing she likes.]

    Yes, and yes. She likes to dominate people. -_-

    [These are all just a wild guess.]

    Not wild guesses. You hit the bulls eye straight on. O_O

  6. banji
    07 May 08 10:55 pm

    Deimos Tel`Arin – šŸ™‚ personally I think it’s not a good idea to just follow blindly what she wants. It will become worse with time. Try to establish some limitation to what you can do. How? that will be a good question to ask. Only you will know exactly how to do since you know her better.

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