Source – Forwarded email

Caller : Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan?

Operator : Yes, you can speak to me.

Caller : No, I want to speak to Annie Wan!

Operator : You are talking to someone! Who is this?

Caller : I’m Sam Wan. And I need to talk to Annie Wan! It’s urgent.

Operator : I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone! But what’s this urgent matter about?

Caller : Well… just tell my sister Annie Wan that our brother Noel Wan has involved in an accident. Noel Wan got injured and now Noel Wan is being sent to the hospital. Right now, Avery Wan is on his way to the hospital.

Operator : Look if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn’t an urgent matter! You may find this hilarious but I don’t have time for this!

Caller : You are so rude! Who are you?

Operator : I’m Saw Lee.

Caller : Yes! You should be sorry. Now give me your name!!

/end

Just some joke, I received. Actually My wife received it and read it to me. figuratively speaking, I roll on the floor laughing.

It strucked me then, misunderstanding is a very common things when it comes to communication. People have it all the time, So will us. So hopefully if I misunderstood any comments or remarks you make while presenting additional ideas to the entries, please excuse me ye… and maybe patiently explained them for the benefit of us all.

Hmm better yet, let us all give each other a break if misunderstanding occur.

Trying to start a fight with your loved ones to get her attention is just so sweet. Good luck Filantera. (For those who have no idea, please refer to previous post’s comment) We would do anything for our better half now wont we?

One thing has been puzzling me on this love matter, maybe you guys can give your own opinion on this.

You see, there are two love quotes that I “accidentally” (I can be hopelessly romantic sometime) memorize. The two contradict each other but I love them both.

Love quote #1 – If you want to hate somebody, leave 1% of your heart for love because who knows, the one you hate may someday be the one you will love the most.If you want to love somebody, leave 1% of your heart for hate because who knows, the one you love may someday be the one you will hate the most

• This may be true at one point. When the person you love the most hurt you, somehow the pain is multiplied thousands times. And when suddenly an event happen that make you hate him such as cheated, used etc, the pain will be so extreme it is impossible to endure.

• It’s better to have that 1% of hate so that maybe it will not hurt so much then

Love quote #2 – Love ! deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely (Corrected by filantera)

• This also make sense. If you love someone with all you heart and it turns out she’s not the one and she dump you, you’ll be hurt like dying but with time you will get over it and move on.

• But what if you did find the one person destined for you, the most perfect companion for you and you throw her aside because of the fear of getting hurt, and she’s gone. Would you forgive yourself? Ever?

So do you see my dilemma? I believe both are true to some extent. And that they are most perfect when complementing each other. What do you guys think? Personally, which would you choose and believe?

————— Personal Note ————————–
I was just been told that tomorrow 19/7 is actually a public holiday for us in Negeri Sembilan. Wow.. either I’m just that ignorance or I’m such that good a worker. By the way, as always I will be going to KL this evening and visit my dear mother there. She is now 50 years old (born alongside Malaysia) but still she won’t give up her job. I guess she’s just that independent and tough. Anyway, as always I will be seeing you via email. So please come and say hi… it will be the high of my day.As for my mother, there’s no question that I love her 100% and I would die for her (seriously)

Presented are two sketch of how people argue. A husband, Habi and his wife, Waifi are arguing on who will take their son, Sani to the dentist.

Scenario 1

Habi – Who should bring our son to the dentist tomorrow?
Waifi – Why are you looking at me?
Habi – I’m just trying to discuss this, who will bring Sani to the dentist tomorrow (with a raised voice)
Waifi – why don’t you just volunteer doing it. Be a gentleman la
Habi – So when it comes to this, it must be always me. You were sometime so selfish you know (hoping his wife dont hear that)
Waifi – I heard that, you called me selfish? how dare you. It’s not that I didn’t do anything for him. And when it comes to this you didn’t even offer to take him.
Habi – And you think I am just a “tunggul”? didn’t do anything for Sani? Well whatever.
Waifi – Whatever
Habi – Fine!!
Waifi – Fine!!

Scenario 2

Habi – Who should bring our son to the dentist tomorrow?
Waifi – (sigh) Do we really need to?
Habi – Hm I guess.. So how?
Waifi – Ok let’s focus here. Are you busy tomorrow?
Habi – Apparently yes, I have a meeting with my boss regarding the estimate preparation for next year. You?
Waifi – Same here, there’s a work I’m way behind schedule and I need to finish it ASAP. So maybe the day after?
Habi – hm I’ll try to change the appointment. How about weekend? both of us can go. And you can be the calming mother while I laugh at his pain Muahahaha
Waifi – You are evil… Weekend’s good for me,
Habi – Now where were we? hehe

/end scenario

Believe it or not, almost all argument happened in our life fall under scenario 1. This is another mindset we need to change.

When arguing/discussing, don’t attack the person, but attack the topic argued/discussed.

Old news? hehe yes you might think so, but please see for yourself, when there’s an argument or discussion. You can see clearly that when A is presenting an idea, and B is calling it rubbish, and A who knows that B might be right, will DEFENSIVELY react. He will take that critics personally even though B meant it for the benefit of all.

However, it is almost always B is the one who first attack A personally so if :

• you are A – take a deep breath, see if there is any truth in B’s critics, acknowledge it and take what you can use

• you are B – Good manner while giving negative comments is always appreciated, make it constructive and unless you have better idea to offer, it is always better to remain silent

————— Personal Note ————————–
Even though I know all this, there will always a stir in the my feeling when somebody attack me personally. A few months back, I was in the meeting and I came up with some ideas to basically improve the efficiency of the mill. The “a bit more senior” colleague of mine then said that I’m still new to the mill (I was just transfered here 1 year ++ ago) and that he knew best. (Sigh) The fact that I’m still new is irrelevant as long as the ideas are concerned. I however proceed with my renovation and Alhamdulillah, I had reduced the stone content of kernel produced by about 1.5% which is a lot. Yey!

Summary – Did Allah created evil? Answer is NO, Below are the explanation

Source : Forwarded Email
Article rewritten based on memory

One of the most popular question about God is why He created evil. As we know, everything there is, is created by Him. So that raise the question, why He created criminals, war, and satan himself. Allow me to explain.

First of all, the mind of people asking this question is flawed to begin with. They believe in duality, meaning there is good and evil, there is hot and cold, there is good god and evil god. This is WRONG!!!! Duality is WRONG!!

The truth is, there is no good and evil. The only things exist is just good, not so good, and not good at all. Let me give you an example. In physics, heat is proven to exist and measurable, but there is just no such thing as coldness. We can have superheat, megaheat, or no heat which is -273.15 Celcius (this is where theoretically atom stops vibrating), but we can’t go to any temperature below this. Why? simply because there is no such thing as coldness. If not, it will be able to go below the -273.15 Celcius.

Coldness is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold because cold is not an entity like heat, it’s just the absence of heat.

I tried to use air condition as an example, but I found the explanation is a bit more complicated, so let me just highlight other examples that may clear things up

• Light exist, given out by the sun, but there is no such thing as darkness existing. Darkness is only a word to describe the absence of light

• Noise exist, we hear them all the time, but there is no such thing as silence. Silence is only a word to describe the absence of noise.

As for why there is bad things in the world. Why there are criminals? It’s not because they are evil by nature. (This statement is not in anyway trying to defend any criminal). Bad criminal is not evil by nature. They must be a point in their life which they are pure, such as when they were babies. So why they turn bad? it’s because the absence of morality in them. Not because God created them to be bad.

In the Holy Quran also stated, that at one time, Iblis was the holiest of all creatures. But due to his pride not wanting to accept Adam as Khalifah, he turns bad. And that he himself swear to corrupt mankind for all eternity.

All this explained already 1400 years ago.

————— Personal Note ————————–
We watched too many tv. That’s why the concept of duality is very familiar in us. One of my favorite tales are those involving Zeus, Hercules etc. There are good gods and evil gods. They are so fun to watch with all the adventure. A more recent tv series would like Charmed, where there is even one character know as “The Source of All Evil”. If that’s not evil, I don’t know what is hehe. (For the record, I love Charmed so much.. ok now you can hate me :p)