A friend of mine who wants to remain anonymous had emailed me quite a long time ago, about a month or so. To her, I want to apologize for being very late in answering your question. Rest assured, any emails sent to me will be answered. And any requested post will be entertained (of course within reason)

She had asked me a question, and she really hopes that everyone reading can give her a point or two on how to solve this problem of hers.

Basically she had fall for a guy she knew. She had not meet him in person but only knew him from the chatting channel on ASTRO.

Describing the guy
She wrote that he is a very good listener and is very caring. In addition to that, they both share the same interest and thus the chemistry.

The problem
This guy apparently is giving mixed signal altogether. Sometimes he will be so loving and romantic, another time.. it’s as if he does not even care about maintaining the relationship.

The question
What can she do to help the guy figure out his feeling towards her? Whether he’s in love with her or he’s not… Whatever it is, I believe she will be able to handle it.. She just need to know which

/end question

To honour her request, I will only give my opinion on the matter in the comment section. Most probably towards the end of the day 🙂

So guys… here we have a friend in need of help, I’m sure you guys have brilliant advice to give. I, on her behalf, really appreciate it 🙂

Summary – Be brave to change

As everyone would have known, today is Awal Muharam. A new year in the Islamic calendar. I’m very sure most blog will blog about it anyway. There are so many things we can talk about to appreciate and learn from the event. We can talk about how the Prophet Muhammad had taken the journey to Madinah, and how it translate in our life as a new beginning of our life. Believe me.. there’s so many lesson we can learnt from it.

One other thing we can learn from the great event is to be brave making changes.

I think most of us will agree that making changes is one of the hardest thing to do. We are comfortable with our current practice, and even though there are problems, we are more afraid of the problem that may arise after we make the change. A little abstract?

For example, Ali is working with an Oil & Gas company, he is however major in Computer Engineering. He is not happy with his work but at least the salary is paying his bills. Then a computer company offered him a job, will he make the change. A logical answer would be yes.. But, Ali will have a dilemma to choose from his dream or his comfortability.

If he choose the company, who knows he will end up with very low benefit and more works. But it will be a dream come true. If he choose to stay with his current company, he will have his stability but he’s not enjoying his work.

Sometimes in life, we will have to be brave to change. I’m not saying we should all quit our job and hunt for our dream. Maybe instead of Roti canai every morning, we can try half boiled egg. We may not be full, but it may be a healthier choice.

In short… when you are stuck with choice A and choice B. And you know for sure that choice B is better in every aspect. And the one thing that holding you back is because you are more comfortable with A, Choose B.

Life is all about making decision, there are no right and wrong decision, only shorter or longer route to achieve your aim.

– I wonder –
Have you ever made a difficult choice in life?

————- Personal Note ————
I wrote this dedicated especially for me. I like being comfortable with my life. If I was at a restaurant, the chances that I order iced Milo is almost 100%.

Starting this blog is actually a very big thing for me. It’s my way of trying to change. If not.. isn’t it more easy just to read blogs 🙂

Happy new year everyone!

The other day, I posted an article on ways to know yourself by asking questions. One of which is to close your eyes and describe your physical appearance verbally, like straight hair, brown eyes etc.

This question is quite interesting for me, because I don’t think we are good at describing people’s appearance.

A quick test… imagine your mother or father. Try to give 10 points describing her/his physical appearance. If you can do that… I salute you, you are blessed with articulate words, rich vocabulary and photographic memory. 🙂

It is my opinion, that we must try to sharpen this skill. What if, a person come and rob you. You can see his face and when you report to the police later on, can you describe the robber’s face? Whether he is an oval shaped or square shaped face? What’s the height? Weight? etc

Robbery and crime happened all the time, and the possibility that we will face one is very likely. So why not we start practising this skill. Here’s some tips I came up that may help kickstart the program.

1) Learn the vocabulary and of course how it actually look like.

2) Know what’s your height and look at yourself in the mirror. Whenever you are walking and you see someone with the same height, just guess their height and weight based on your height and weight. Practice with some friends. Even though I doubt no girls will ever disclose the two figure… 🙂

3) This third tips will require a lot of practice. Have a glimpse of a person for about 2 seconds and look away. now describe him. This will in time enhance your photographic memory. When you are more skilled with this, try to remember numbers or words at first glimpse.

4) The last thing you should learn, is how to remember voice. The robber may speak to you. And there may a time when all the police will need is for you to recognise the voice again. If you didn’t have any practice, believe me… all voice will be heard the same.

Let’s try this, kay… We may need it later on.

– I wonder –
Any other tips you might want to share?

———– Personal Note ————-
Talking about faces, I wonder how my baby will look like when he/she is born? Is it true that first born always look like the father? I looked exactly like my father :)By the way… yesterday, I felt the baby kicking for the first time 🙂 So excited!! Even though I’m not sure whether it is kicking or punching or just plain head banging heheh

I think it’s just sad that drunk people forget everything even their identity. Don’t you agree?

So how about us? Do we really know who we are? This is one of the biggest question in our life. And I can guarantee you that writing about it will require more than just a page on a blog. However… being big doesn’t mean it can’t be discussed right?

So I present to you what I think the best way to know ourselves. And we have been doing it for quite some time already 🙂

As bloggers, I’m sure you have all been asked to write memes in your blog. Usually it will be questions about yourself. Things you like, things you don’t like, your dream etc etc.

Memes / question is one of the best way to know yourself. Now open up a notepad, and write question you want to know about yourself. It is true that it is pointless since you were asking question that you know the answer. Well that’s the point. Write 10 questions you want to know.. and then answer them. You don’t need to show this to anyone. It is for you to know yourself.

Make it a habit to write down one additional question every day and answer them in the notepad. It’s not much but you are beginning to know yourself so much better. 🙂

An example of the 10 first questions
1) What’s your name? – (Introduction)
2) Close your eyes, can you describe your physical self? – (Physical)
3) What will make you smile instantly? – (Emotion)
4) Who in your life, you willingly give up your life so that he/she will live longer? – (Important person in life)
5) What do you think your strength? – (Life optimization)
6) What do you think your weakness? – (Self improvement)
7) What do you need to have/do/achieve in 5 years? – (Life planning)
8] What’s your religion? – (Spiritual)
9) In term of percentage, how do you rate yourself as of now? Why? – (Review)
10) What’s your favorite food? – (Trivia)

I don’t expect you to answer those question here in the blog. The answers are for you and for you only. These are all examples on how the questions should look like. It should be about all aspect of life. The most important thing is we must know what we can gain from the question. Happy answering to yourself

– I wonder –
How about you add more questions here? 🙂

———— Personal Note ———–
I am 30 years old this year, and I’m still in the process of knowing myself. Of course I must excuse other people who still can’t figure me out. right?

If only there’s a way to be reverse the aging process :p