Summary – A little selfish wont hurt..

Today’s the last day of my medical leave. Unfortunately, there’s some sign that my eye is better. Again.. unfortunately. Nevertheless it’s still a good thing that I was given the leave. Now why do I say it’s good? Here’s why..

I can actually spend time to do other thing. like finishing up the Harry Potter book, resting, and doing some little projects. I wonder why I cannot do this during my day off every week. I guess when it’s your day off, you just want to rest. No more working.

Come to think of it, maybe that’s why we are so frustrated with work. We work and we work every single day, and when it comes to our day off, we just spend it resting (with the intention to gather strength for another series of work the next week). Some spend it by doing chores that cannot be done on weekdays. This chores are usually not that fun, like doing laundry, cleaning the house etc. It’s like work… without the paycheck. No wonder we are stressed out, we are working every single second of our life.

Seriously I realize this yesterday, that we really need to take some time for ourselves. Allocate some time to do what we want to do. For example, me with reading the book. or surf the web… not to find material for your blog, but just because you want to.

Can I ask you, at this moment… what do you want to do for yourself? Something that you like to do, without having no other benefit except your satisfaction.

I try to come up with some things that we can do just for our own pleasure. Maybe you can add more to it?

• watch sunrise (at least once a week)
• take leave from work and go see a movie of your choice alone
• play music and do nothing but listen
• buy a watercolor and draw an abstract drawing
• make a robot from bottles and wires

Conclusion – What we do every single day almost always for someone else, or for getting some benefit from it like paycheck, recognition etc. we never spend time for ourselves. It’s true we must not be selfish, but our own time, our own activity is very important for us to realize that we really living a life.

————–Personal Note————-
After finishing Harry Potter, I’m going to find if there is any Silat training here at my place. Anything will do.. I really love practising Silat, not that I am any good :)Just simply love the art

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Summary – Just a yesterday storyI woke up yesterday, very eager to work… (not exactly). However it is weird that I had those “taik mata” at my eye (I wonder what it’s called in english..eye shit? hehe). Before any assumption arise, I do wash my face and bath every morning (I almost can hear the assumption building up).

I looked in the mirror. hm my left eye is reddish. (I have a sepet eye.. chinese almost always speak chinese with me) I thought maybe the eye got exposed to the dust while riding my motorcycle to work (Estate is like that.. when it’s dry, we will have a layer of dust on our face – bedak asli). Hopefully the reddish color will be gone soon.

Working as usual, until lunch time, I go back home. (the mill and my house is just 1 km apart, so I can actually go home anytime of the day 🙂 ) the color is still there. (Ait!!!) I tried sleeping during the 1 hour (overslept abit :p). There’s no change in the color. (I think I “sakit mata”) Went to see the manager, asking permission to go to clinic. (he doesn’t even want to look at my face, maybe afraid that the disease spread to him)

Went to see the doctor.. (Guess what, the doctor also try to avoid any eye contact with me. Is it really that contagious?) and he gave me a 3 days MC (Yahooooo!). Went back to the mill and surrendered the MC to the manager (with the expression of pain and suffering but yahooing inside)

So with that, it is confirmed that I am down with “sakit mata” (I still don’t know the english word for it. Eye ache?) Please pray for my recovery and hopefully the mrs will be fine.

Lesson learnt –

• One tips from old people (Petua) to avoid “sakit mata” is to blink when you take bath. I used to do that.. and very rarely be sick. Now that I wear contact lense, it’s advisable not to do so, so I didn’t. Maybe you can try.. seriously it work.

• People with “sakit mata” has the ultimate power to make even the manager afraid to look you in the eyes hahah

• I need to brush up on my English vocabulary. Very poor

• The words in the bracket is like what my mind is thinking at the moment I wrote certain sentence. what a busy mind we have, don’t you think so?

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Summary – Syaitan’s work is very easy

We all know that Syaitan are our greatest enemy. They had sworn to sway us away from the Islam and Iman. If there is any bad things we do, we often associate it with the Syaitan, whispering in our heart to push us do the sinful thing, like “mengumpat”, stealing, and even killing. Syaitan is of course blamed for every bad things happening in the world.

That makes me wonder, Isn’t it during Ramadhan, all syaitan are chained to protect human from being tempted? Why is it, that nothing had actually changed. Just look into our heart, we ourselves can do sinful things during Ramadhan, like “fitnah”, “mengumpat”, even neglect the 5 solats. Look around us, we can see people proudly not fasting, innocently walking during Friday prayer, and some even go to the extreme such as raping and killing. Can we really blame Syaitan for all this?

I definitely agree that syaitan is the one who whisper to us, tempting us to do sinful things. and I agree that they are human’s enemy till Judgement Day. But how can we explain the sinful things we do during Ramadhan? Desire? maybe…

My opinion is, syaitan nowadays has an easy job. What they do is just to plant a seed in our heart. That seed can be as little as some white lie (bohong sunat), or rushing after solat etc. All those things that we normally think “not a big deal”. The seed buried deep inside our heart, by mean of we keep doing all the minor things (makruh) like solat at the end of the period, reciting alfatihah in a breath time. We keep doing it, and thus the seed grows.Until one time, we no longer care what is makruh and what is sunat, If we don’t realize this, the time will come when we no longer care what is haram and what is wajib. To make things worst, not only we are like that, we try to persuade our friends to act the same. What difference then between us and syaitan?Basically we can see ourselves, syaitan’s work is very easy. Maybe we should learn more about Islam, knowing exactly what is makruh, what is sunat. If we take the time to learn about makruh and sunat, I believe abiding wajib and haram will comes naturally. Let’s give those syaitan a challenge shall we?

What do you think? any other insights you might notice?

————–Personal Note————-
When I wrote this, I feel like the words are actually meant for me. I admit, I am not a good muslim. I never pray at the beginning of the period, I rarely “sedekah”. And it’s been a long time since I go back to learning all this Feqah. So this writings are more like a reminder to me, A reminder that I know and still I don’t care. Ya Allah, please make me a better person

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Summary – Two things noticed..

First of all… let’s take a moment and recite the surah AlFatihah to Adik Nurin Jazlin.

Thousands of blog around Malaysia are writing on this unfortunate event. Cursing the psychopath and praying that the family will be strong and patient. This blog will join in cursing that psychopath and pray he will be caught and punished. It would be better if he can be chained at Dataran Merdeka.. and let us all “rejam batu” at him. I personally will take a day off and go there.

Two things I noticed from this unfortunate event

1) Be careful, there’s a psycho around us

Malaysia is a very beautiful country. We are admired by most nation as a nation of peace. I totally agree. We can actually walk anywhere in Malaysia without any fear.

Until now.. one person has changed the whole Malaysia. This one person has proved that despite our best quality, there’s a monster living among us. That monster is only one person, but it totally affect all Malaysian. We all mourn for our Kak Ngah.

The point is please increase our awareness on the matter

• Know your neighbour, make friends with them
• Know your children, their friends, and keep track of their activity
• Educate them as early as possible on humanity to prevent them from being that one monster.
• Please be cautious, again… there’s a monster among us

Malaysia is still peaceful, Malaysian can still be proud of our beloved Malaysia for its courtesy etc. But we have to admit and aware of this monster, and take every precaution we could think of to protect ourselves and family

2) There maybe some hope in the unity in Malaysia

I’m touched by the thousands of people mourning over our Kak Ngah. Chinese, Indian, Malays etc all joined together.

I guess, in time like this.. We are all reduced to simpler being. We are no longer Malays, Chinese or Indian. We are just fathers, mothers, brothers. We are all family.

So let’s… Let us all be brothers and sisters. Start small.. start from your neighbour. Then maybe your colleague and go on. Let them know our intention is to create that bond with them. It’s no easy task.. We are so used to the idea, our house.. our house, theirs theirs.

I really wish all this cruelty happening to our children stop. These are our children.. an “Amanah” from Allah Himself. How can people even look at children that way. Seriously, I hope my “Dataran Merdeka” idea is taken into consideration.

————–Personal Note————-
Personally, I think they are many sexual predator now because of the porn in the internet. How else such a culture can be within us? We can’t stop the internet. But we can break certain culture of ours and start openly teach our children on sex education etc. Hopefully they will know the bad effect of porn before it even corrupt them.Look at it this way, the children will sooner or later learn about it, why not we show them the right way to learn it.

What do you think? 

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