Summary – Top 5 skills all students must have to survive the world

Thinking back when I was studying, nobody had actually told me what to expect and what exactly I’m supposed to do. The truth is, once you started studying at tertiary level, you were expected to be independent and figure this out yourself.

There are actually a lot of skills you must master during your studying. And you will notice how useful these skills are immediately after you finish studying 🙂

Allow me to list the top 5 skills you will need and how to nurture them..

1) Stress Management
The world is cruel out there. People screaming at you all the time, impossible deadline, back-stabbing etc. Believe me the time will come when you are so stressed that you get up and start walking very fast without realizing it. That is the early sign you are under stress.

  • Learn to be ignorant. Learn to listen with one ear and let it pass by out of the second ear. Somehow we can do that perfectly in a lecture, why not try it somewhere else? 🙂 Of course this is specifically for stress related talks.
  • Find your inner peace. I personally walk or run to calm myself. Find yours.
  • Learn to file the stress away. Set another time to worry about it. For example, you heard the news of computers being hacked, just worry about it when you are in front of the computer. Why worry now when you can’t do anything about it.
  • Start meditation. Meditation doesn’t have to be a complicated thing. You can actually just do the basic of meditation.
  • Apply the Donkey’s Famous Lesson. Read the story here

2) Leadership
Everyone will be a leader in one way or another. Actually for you to be promoted, people will be looking for this quality in you.

  • Be a good follower first. Join clubs if you can. There, observe the leader of the club and see how effective he is. Learn from him.
  • Be charismatic. Would you like to be led by someone who look like an addict? Behave like a leader. That means well dressed, confident and charming.
  • Decide confidently. Practise this, but remember.. the key to good decision is firm, fast and justifiable. Now decide on your choice of dinner for the night.
  • Learn to identify strength and weakness. Pick 10 friends of yours at random. Secretly identify what are their strength and weaknesses. Maybe Ali is good with grammar but are to shy to give presentation.

3) Lifelong Learning
If you think all the learning stop with your graduation, think again? It’s a typical wrong assumption made by students. Learning never stop.

  • Start with one. Choose one subject that you love the most. It must be something you really love. Go to the library or surf the internet and research everything there is to know about the subject.
  • Learn to speed reading. You will learn and focus better with this technique. One method is to scan the articles for points like what I’m doing here.

4) People Skill
Communicating with people may be one of the hardest thing to do. Everyone is unpredictable and to make sure everything is going according to plan requires specific skill when it comes to people.

  • Plain talk. When you are on a bus, try to talk to the stranger besides you. But please don’t just talk to only those of opposite gender to you. That would be unfair 🙂 Here’s some tips to avoid being clueless in a conversation
  • Plain listen. Once a week, make time to listen to your friends talking. They may be sharing their problem. just listen. You don’t even need to give your suggestion.
  • Haggle / Arguing Skill. For a start, always try to haggle when you buy something. You may not get that price you want, but at least you will get the experience. Not haggling is one of the 5 mistakes we did unknowingly while shopping

5) Self Motivation
The time will come when you are down from failure etc. Who will you call? You can’t expect your parents or lecturers to motivate you. Pick yourself up.

  • List down your three motivation keys. Everyone has their own method to get motivated. Maybe a quote or a story. Establish these and remind yourself of them everytime you’re down. My personal key is the quote “Shake it off and take a step up”.
  • Bookmark motivational websites. A shameless promotion would be bookmarking 🙂
  • Achieve mini success everyday. Nothing more motivating that success. So set easy goal to achieve everyday. Once you succeeded, it will give a positive remark on you. Maybe aim to save $200 every month for 3 months. That should be easy.
  • Get up from your mini failure. Remember those easy goals you set? If you fail to achieve them, I would call it mini failure. Get up from those failure. Start again if you must. But remember to write down in writing every details about your come back. When you need motivation, you can always refer back to that record.

– I wonder –
Anything else you might want to add?

——- Personal Note ——–
Speaking of finding my inner peace to calm my stress level, I first noticed that I need to walk it off when Filantera (my younger brother) had an accident back in 1990, if I’m not mistaken. I automatically walked around my house again and again while praying for his safety. Alhamdulillah, he’s safe 🙂

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  1. filantera`
    12 Mar 08 9:02 am

    heheheh i didnt see banji’s walking aroung the house but i do sure heard bout it…thanks for the pray though:D
    (but i still afraid of optimus prime , really)

    great tips, if nak komen satu persatu will be another post:)

    but i agree with this:)
    Bookmark motivational websites. A shameless promotion would be bookmarking

  2. 12 Mar 08 6:08 pm

    filantera – Alhamdulillah you were fine 🙂 I still can’t believe that the first thing I thought is that you had fall into the drain

    Hopefully, with your support.. (all friends and readers supporting) the blog can continue to grow… I will need help though promoting it.

  3. 19 Mar 08 3:22 pm

    great tips!
    saya suka ini.

  4. banji
    19 Mar 08 6:25 pm

    qemmal – thanx.. appreciate it

  5. Maria
    02 Apr 08 3:12 am

    I recommend relaxation videos at
    Helps me to concentrate when I’m doing my homework.

  6. banji
    04 Apr 08 10:08 am

    – I once tried those nature music, like waterfall birds and wave. Quite relaxing too.. even though the waterfall sounds does make me feel like I need to go to the toilet 🙂

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