Summary – The secret of happiness is “Both of you”

So why do you think married couple cheat on each other like previous joke? The first thing that come to my mind is that they are not happy. Do you agree? Yes, I know that there are thousands of reason why a couple cheat: culture, not educated, lust etc etc. But I strongly believe that not being happy is one of the major factor.

So how can we have a happy relationship? This is secret to happiness, but there is one condition to reading it. It must be read by both parties.. the husband and the wife, the boyfriend and the girlfriend. If you can’t tie him to the chair forcing him to read this, you can just email it to him later 🙂

The secret is – You put your partner’s happiness first before you (Both of you).

As simple as it is, this will need both of you to practise it for it to work. You see, when we are single, we always take care of ourself. If we are hungry, we cook and eat, if we are happy, we smile to nothingness. So logically when we are attached to someone, we want that alone life to change, right? Before we are hungry, our better half already asked or order food. If we are sad, he/she will comfort us.

I mean, how would you feel when it’s raining outside and you’re hungry, and there’s no food, when suddenly your doorbell rang and it was your boyfriend soaking wet with a burger or “nasi lemak” in hand. You were not even asking. (I think this incident is from a novel that the mrs have me read hehe)

That is happiness. the feeling when you know that someone is looking after you, taking every possible opportunity to make you smile and comfy. Wait for you to eat together. Give up the chicken wing just because he know you love chicken wing.

And now imagine both of you are doing the same thing. How can you not be happy then. Remember.. the secret lies in the word “Both of you”.

What do you think? Do you agree?

—————– Personal Note ——————-
I dedicated the entry to my soon-to-be-married bro. 🙂 I wish all the best with you. Trust me, it’s going to be a tough road ahead. So many unknown things, and the worse part is you are not going to find the solution in blogs or books. You will just have to equip yourself with knowledge, and start from there to solve everyday’s problem.

However, knowing how resourceful you are.. I’m not at all worried, you will do just fine bro 🙂 happy planning the wedding!

A boy, John watched his daddy’s car pass by the school playground and go into the woods. Curious, he followed the car and saw Daddy and Aunt Karen into a passionate embrace. Little Johnny found this so exciting that he could not contain himself as he ran home and started to tell his mother.

“Mommy, i was at the playground and I saw Daddy’s car go into the woods with Aunt Karen. I went back to look and he was giving Aunt Karen a big kiss, then he helped her take off her shirt. Then Aunt Karen helped Daddy take his pants off, then Aunt Karen…”

At this point Mommy cut him off. “John, this is such an interesting story. Why dont you tell the rest of it during dinner? I want to see the look of your Daddy’s face when you tell it tonight.”

At the dinner table, Mommy asked little John to tell his story. John started his story: ” i was at the playground and I saw Daddy’s car go into the woods with Aunt Karen. I went back to look and he was giving Aunt Karen a big kiss, then he helped her take off her shirt. Then Aunt Karen helped Daddy take his pants off”

The Daddy started to sweat..

“then Aunt Karen and Daddy started doing the same thing that Mommy and Uncle Jack used to do when Daddy was in the Army.”

/end

Lesson Learnt
– sometimes you need to listen to the whole story before you interrupt!

Have a nice weekend everyone! 🙂

Summary – Help needed & the story of my engagement

In exactly one month from now (just after Aidiladha), I will have to do something I’ve never done before. I will lead my family and talk on their behalf for my brother’s engagement. In a simpler word – “Meminang”. It’s an honour bro..

Like all other first time things, I have no idea as to what to say or do. I know that this is all just for the sake of formality. The engagement has received green light from both families. Even if I said “Assalamualaikum, so kira jadilah ye? Bye”, the engagement will still be on (No worry brother, I’m not going to say that 🙂 )

Public speaking has never been a problem for me, it’s just that I still have some time to prepare for the speech, so why not ask my elite consultants (Which is you) for some advice or tips. Any scripts or dialogue structure (for example, first greeting, then talk about the weather then the talk) I should follow?

Which reminds me of the chaotic story of my engagement 🙂

————— Personal Note ————–
I’m not so sure about you guys, but my family is quite strict about one thing during engagement. That the groom-to-be must not attend the discussion. I have no problem either way.. but since it’s what the family wants (Now I feel like I’m in some Godfather movie), I better abide by them.

So while they were discussing about my engagement and the details of the wedding, there was I in my car, a few hundred meters away from my fiance’s (the mrs) house.

The thing is the mrs’ family actually wanted to see me. All her uncles and aunts actually were there just to see who will be the new addition to their family. The mrs kept calling me on the phone asking me to come over. What should I do? I was so torn up right then… and it worsen with filantera coming over asking me to join them. He said, my soon-to-be father in law specifically ask me to join them. Can you see the dilemma?

And that’s not even the worse part, I actually was just wearing a plain old tshirt. Now what if they all suddenly come out and see me. That’s not going to be a very good first impression now would it?

I then kidnapped my brother (asking him to follow me) and we went to this “bundle” shop (A shop selling used clothes). After searching.. I found a nice shirt (“kemeja”) and bought it. Time’s running up and filantera was getting hungrily crankier because he cannot enjoy the feast. Then I went to search for a laundry and get the shirt ironed.

When I get back, apparently the discussion and the feast were over. My family was actually waiting for me. The mrs was frustrated of course, not able to introduce me to the family. but accepted my excuse of going to buy the shirt. (She will read this tomorrow.. hehe no problem, married her already) and I managed to abide by that tradition imposed.

Personally, I don’t see any reason why the groom shouldn’t be in the discussion. At least give him something to eat.. right?

A clear example of “telan mati emak, luah mati bapak, go buy a shirt from bundle shop then,” 🙂

Summary – 4 Decluttering Categories

If you google the word “declutter”, I’m sure you will be surprised at how many tips there are in the world. Well there are going to be an additional one today.

Declutter is basically when you clear your table. Imagine your room.. you have a bed full of cloth on it, a computer desk with food and some magazine. a side table with everything.. you can’t even see what color is the table. Imagine now… your room has only a bed, computer desk and the side table. Wouldn’t it be more relaxing?

The tips described are based on my experience and of my personal opinion. There are only 4 categories – Being Used, Useful, Beautiful, Etc.

Now check every items in your room… even that small paperclips and categorize them

1) Being used

• These are items that you used almost everyday. Computer, books and pillow fall under this category. Bear in mind, that items that has not been used for more than 2 days is not to be put under this category.

• Items under category “Being Used” must be made available and accessible at all time. Meaning, you should be able to see them at all times. So put them back in a proper place.

2) Useful

• These are items that you seldom used but they are useful nonetheless. Typical examples are like radio, nail clipper, handphone charger etc.

• All items under this category must be hidden. They must be put in a box or a place but it must be hidden. One thing about hiding a useful item is we must always know where to find it when we really need it. So make sure all boxes are properly labelled and hidden in a known area. Remember the keywords are hidden but accessible. 🙂

3) Beautiful

• Beautiful items are meant to be seen. But too much of them will just make it ugly. For example you have 100 photo frames. If you put it out, then there will be no place for everything else. So for beautiful items… there are only two keywords to follow – Minimal and rotation! Rotate your items. For example, just put one frame on the computer desk (minimizing), and another on the side table. Hide the other 98 frames in a box. Tomorrow, take out two frames and replace the one on the computer desk and side table.. Now simplicity is beautiful don’t you think?

4) Etc

• Everything else… I mean everything else is etc. Throw them away, or if the items had some sentimental value, take digital picture of them. Then just throw them away. Old novel can be given to friends, Old clothes can be donated etc.

Do you see any problem with the categories? Something I might have missed? Do tell and let’s patch the hole together..

Now this is Decluttering Tips #1 🙂

———– Personal Note ————-
Decluttering is never about cleaning up. It is more on simplifying life. By doing so.. we will immediately know what is important in life. A quick exercise – declutter your desktop screen… 🙂

Eh I’m supposed to write personal stuff here. Well the wallpaper I’m using is of last year’s Aidilfitri. The first Raya with the mrs in the family. Next year there will be another new member in the family, eh two new member in the family 🙂