Summary – Tips to avoid being “pau”ed

Have you ever experienced this? you were walking in KL (That’s Kuala Lumpur) when suddenly a stranger walked alongside with you and started to talk to you. After a quick talk he persuasively asked for money giving excuses and all.

Well, it happened to me quite often. I guess I had that look of a non-KL’ian. This is a story of one of them

It was about 6-7 years ago, I was actually walking to the KTM station to buy a ticket for the commuter. Suddenly a man with a bag came to me and said hi. According to him, he was supposed to go back to Klang, and he didn’t have enough money. Looking at him, somehow I felt like helping, so I asked him how much did he need? and surprisingly, he asked for a two way ticket.

I started to be suspicious with him. A man who is desperate will not ask for more money than he needed. Why would he need a two way ticket?

I however, said fine.. but I will buy him the ticket. Guess what? he said that there’s no need, just give him the money and he will buy it himself.

I then walked away…

/end story

Now that was a few years back, I wonder what scam they are doing right now. I unfortunately had quite a number of experience being “kena pau” (I believe that is the term used for the activity). One by a person claimed to be just released from prison with no money and wanting to go to Taiping. Another needed some money to go to clinic (He actually screamed at me cursing when I walked away) and the funniest is a man asking for money to watch a movie.

Tips that may help to avoid being “pau”

• Always travel in groups or in pairs
• Try to blend in with the crowd confidently
• These people actually target those with huge bags
• Be paranoid in anything that involve in you surrendering your money, what ever the cause.
• When somebody approach you suspiciously, start walking to the police or security guard, and ask him to help the person.
• There will be however a person that will really need our help, If a person ask me for money to buy bus ticket, and agreed if I can buy him the ticket.. I will definitely help him.

—- I wonder —-
Have you had any experience being “pau”ed? If yes, what do you do? If not, What will you do? 🙂

———- Personal Experience ————-
Life sure is interesting 🙂 Alhamdulillah… hm by the way, does anyone know the English word for this activity (pau)? It’s not mugged since you can choose not to give him any money..

Summary – Why pain exist

Pulling out teeth without anaesthetic is plain cruel. So it hurts, and most of the time you will cry out of pain.

Have you ever wonder though, why then did Allah created pain? And since we are talking about it, why did the feeling of angry, envy etc even existed?

The answer is simple, it’s because all those feeling are equally important with any other feeling such as happy, joy etc. So what happen if the world exist without ….

1) Without any pain – Well, there will be a lot of people hurting themselves without even knowing it. People using only barehand to hold hot fying pan, They will have burnt skins but since it does not hurt, what’s the harm. The worst thing that can happen, is people will start killing each other without any guilt. There is no pain, so dying is just as normal as fainted.

2) Without any anger – People can bully us how ever they want. They can step on our head, or even call our families names, or insult our religion / country, and still we will accept that naturally. Discipline can never be achieve since anyone can do what ever they want. One word – Chaotic

3) Without any envy – Envy is when we don’t have what others are having, and we want that too. Basically envy is our desire. The world will surely die, since nobody wants anything. Nobody wants to compete. So everyone will live their live without any desire to move forward.

/end

Yes, it is written in about all books on positive thinking to avoid these feeling altogether. But I disagree. I think these feeling is meant for us to use it WISELY. We must know exactly when to be angry, and how much is too much.

In Islam, a husband who let his wife with another man is considered a “Dayus”. “Dayus” is roughly translated as do not dare to be angry and take action. And the husband will be sinful for just being a “Dayus”

Conclusion – Every feeling and emotion is created to be used wisely. And for it to be useful, the limit between too little and too much must be crystal clear

———— I wonder ————
Care to list down other negative emotion.. and maybe you can come up with a continuation to the list, as to what will happen to the world if other negative emotion does not exist?

————— Personal Note —————–
I’m starting a new column in the entry which is “I wonder” column. I will put up a few question there for discussion.

Feel free to provide your own insight to the matter discussed, or ANYTHING in the entry. But if you are clueless on what to comment, maybe you can just put up your thought to the question in the “I Wonder” column. Just trying to make things easier 🙂

A man and his wife walked into a dentist’s office. The man said to the dentist, “Doctor, I’m in one hell of a big hurry! I have two buddies sitting out in my car waiting for us to go play golf. So forget about the anesthetic and just pull the tooth and be done with it– I don’t have time to wait for the anesthetic to work!

The dentist thought to himself, “Damn. This sure is a strong man, asking me to pull his tooth without using anything to kill the pain.”

So the dentist asked him, “Which tooth is it, sir?”

The man turned to his wife and said, “Open your mouth, Honey, and show the doctor which tooth hurts.”

/end

heartless husband.. eheh if you’re the wife, what would you do to your husband in return?

Happy Sunday! Take a rest… you definitely earned it

For friends visitting who haven’t read yesterday’s entry, please scroll down to the 30th November. It’s on how to effectively escape from a pervert / rapist. An entry dedicated to all woman out there. I just hope that no pervert is reading. 🙂

I know I said that there will be no post today, but I just can’t resist from typing a few words eheh. I’m actually going to start a new culture here at LessonInLife.com. I’m going to present to you the monthly progress report of the blog. It has always been ours, right?

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• Azuwachan – Why I Think Being Quiet is Better Than Being Talkative (17)
• How To Be Happy When You Are Single (17)
• Test Your BF/GF But Keep The Result (16)
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• Secret of Happiness – To Be Read By Couples (15)

Banji’s Must Read Article

• 4 Uncommon Ways To Escape From Pervert

For the whole 29 articles for November, you can reread it at the archive

Blog’s progress

• Guest blogging had been kickstarted by Ms Azuwachan. Two interesting entries had been published. I really appreciate her contribution, and hopefully other friends will start to join in. Give this blog a new voice 🙂
• New Categories – Scam Awareness & Guest Blogger
• I have planned quite a few blog development for December. Believe me, the blog will only get better each day. You just wait 🙂

Monthly’s Personal Note
On 12/11 my mother was warded in the hospital for hypertension at 190/114. But she is now (updated at 1/12) is at 140/85. Which is so much better. Thank you to all friends praying and giving tips.

Conclusion
The blog is very lucky to have you, my fellow friends as the contributor. Again, your additional ideas and experience shared are very much appreciated.

We however need more great minds to learn from. So.. I humbly ask a favor from you, which is to spread the words of this blog to you friends, be it online or offline.

I’m sure the benefit we will get from them (experience and knowledge), will be worth it.

p.s. Hint – My birthday is in December!! hehe