Yesterday, I’ve posted a question on what message would you like to give to yourself in the past if it is possible? What do you want to change? I personally thanks fellow friends answering :). The answers provided can be further discussed in so many interesting ways. » Read the rest of the entry..
Yesterday I watched a movie – Paycheck, starring Ben Affleck and Uma Thurman. Basically Ben helped created a device that allow him to see the future. He sees himself die, but the problem is after he’d done with his work, his memory will be erased. So how could he prevent it? He actually send himself items to help him escape everything that will kill him. Interesting…Now I have two questions for you, I really appreciate it if you could help me by answering them.
If you could send a message to yourself back in time to any moment in your life, (in writing of course). What would you advise yourself?
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So how do you hold on to that burning stone? Here’s a few ideas
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Summary – Know your extreme limits
Forming the club aside, I really hope this Hari Raya will be the best irregardless of the expenditure. What Ms Intan had commented carry some truth, when this is a once per year occasion. Furthermore it is actually recommended by Islam to honour and celebrate it happily. I guess in short, it is totally up to us to maintain balance between “spending until it hurts” and “saving until it hurts”
Hm I believe the key to better life is always moderation. Sugar if taken excessively will lead to diabetic and if we just cut out anything sugary, we will be equally sick and weak. We need to consume sugar but only in very moderate amount. (Doctors, correct me if I’m wrong).
Even if the example is wrong, we all know this fact long time already. So why is this post will be any different?
Again, we all know the importance of moderation, but the one thing that we don’t know is where is the line separating moderate and extreme. We may think we know, but the truth is we really don’t.
An example, a friend ask for help, how far do we go to help him. We have two option.. We can go to the extreme until we give him all our money in the bank, or the other extreme would be to ignore him entirely. Now we know that we need to help him (this would be the moderation). But how far should we help him. (This is the tricky part)
We must always have certain principle on this matter. Like in this scenario, maybe our principle is to help him in all matters except financially. Because debt can bring the ugliness in a friendship. I wouldn’t say that this is a good principle, but it is a good thing to have that kind of principle / policy beforehand.
The same thing goes to everything. Always have a policy that define what is the extreme of both end. it make things a lot easier, I assure you.
Other scenarios that maybe good for us to have policy
– when to get angry and when to be patient
– when to continue work / study and when to give in to sleeping
– which person to be friend with, and which person shoud be avoided
– etc
Do you have any other scenarios to add where extreme limits need to be clear? Appreciate your feedback…
————–Personal Note————-
Back when I worked in Johor, there was one time I was down with Dengue fever. I was at the time still single and live by myself. So one fine day, I felt very sick. Throwing up every now and then, feeling like you want to go have no 2, but nothing came out. Seriously that was hell. And I can even picture myself dying.One thing about me with fever, I usually try my best to sweat it off. I jog around the house but the condition just worsen. I then decided that this was no ordinary fever, and submitted myself to the hospital to be checked. I was immediately suspected to having dengue fever.
My point is, if I still want to be “degil” and still trying to sweat the fever off, I would probably die due to late detection. That’s just how much important knowing the limits to extreme is.
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