Summary – 4 Steps To Do When Attacked by Pervert..

Talking about hobby, mine is martial art :).. I have been quite obsessed with it since I’m still a kid. In today’s entry I would like to dedicate it especially to all women reading. It is on a simple way to defend yourself if attacked by rapist or pervert. I come up with the tips myself so I’m very sure it can be improved or corrected.. so please do

1) Never give up
Most woman fight with everything they had when attacked by rapist or pervert. Please do.. But psychologically, the attacker is expecting you to fight and so he will try to break your spirit first. The harder you fight, the more violent he will become with the slapping, punching and kicking.

2) Pretend to be weak
My advice is fight if you must. But if you find out he is way too strong, PRETEND that you’ve given up. Look as if you’re now submissive to him, as if you’re going to do what he wants. I know it’s hard to do when his hand is all over your body, but you can’t fight him when he’s expecting you to fight.

So when he sees you weak and obedient, slowly his guard will go down. He is now focussing on how to satisfy his lust. You will know that his guard is down when he is now looking at your body instead of your eyes, maybe he will slowly releasing his grip on your hand. Now this is a very crucial moment….

3) Keep your mind focussing on one thing – Escape
This is the most difficult part. We can talk all we want, but when it happens.. we will be so afraid, nothing comes to mind. That is why you must keep reminding yourself of one goal – ESCAPE. Forget about his face, or revenge. Casually look around, and ask this ONE question.. where should you run to? All other question can wait

You are probably hurt (after being punched or slapped), you are terrified, and suddenly you feel like there’s nothing you can do. I say that this is the hardest part, because you will now has to summon your whole energy. both the mind and the body despite the pain and the hopelessness to do the next step – The All-Out Double Attack

4) The All-Out Double Attack
There are so many ways to strike, but there’s no point of remembering all of them. You just need to remember this – The All-Out Double Attack.

The first attack is aimed to cause pain to the attacker and distract him for one second. (Remember – only ONE second, so you have strike fast and immediately do number 2). First attack is to hurt his eye. Use your thumb and stab one of his eye as hard as possible. Kicking the rapist’s sensitive area will usually stop him completely, but he is expecting that, and being a sensitive area, naturally he will block any attempt to hurt it. But the eye, is easily reached, make it look like you’re caressing his cheeks and then strike.

Ok, now that is the first attack, remember… the aim is just to distract him, you can’t paralyze him with that attack, So immediately after you strike the eye, use both leg to kick him away from you with all your might. This is the second attack. And without delay, get up and run… Run Forrest!! Run!!

Just imagine, if you use up all your energy fighting him in the beginning, you will depleted all your energy and possibly trip when escaping.

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I know, there’s a lot of other way to handle this situation, feel free to add in ideas and tips. I can elaborate the steps in lots of way, but that will only complicate things. And during emergency like this you only need to remember 4 things : Never give up, how to escape, the eye and the kick… That’s it

—————- Personal Note —————-
I’m not in any way saying that I’m an expert, but I have been in martial art studies for more that 13 years. So rest assured, that I’m not making this up and that this is one of the most practical way to escape. But still, I appreciate any feedback or question to make us better prepared.I seriously think that this post is very important, so I will NOT be posting new entry tomorrow (1/12) hoping that I can share this with all my friends.

If you think the entry will benefit your friends, please link the entry in your blog. if and only if you think this is a must read..

Nothing is fresher than a little bit of fresh air :). So I present to you Ms Azuwachan, today’s Guest Blogger on a topic that makes me suddenly get up from my chair. Enjoy!

Summary – The Importance of Hubby … erk Hobby

5 reasons why people need to have a hobby in life.

• To fill your time. You are stupid if you don’t aprreciate the time and let it go just like that.

• A way to discover yourselves/your talent. Like if you love singing karaoke, maybe you REALLY have the talent to become a singer, who knows??

• Some hobbies that deal with technical stuffs can help you train yourselves to get better and better, like sewing for example. You sew often, and soon you’ll be an expert!!

• And from that 3rd point, who knows if you could earn cash from the expertise??! (I think Dato’ Siti Nurhaliza make use of this way, huhu~)

• A good hobby can help you to discipline yourselves, to reduce pressure, or just to get rid from people around you and to be alone. Especially to get rid from any one that could annoy you, heheh…

How to select a hobby?

• Know what you like. If you like music, go out and register for a class. See if it suits you. Same goes to other kind of hobbies.

• Go online. There are millions of stuffs you could get from it.

Oh, and don’t be too stingy. It’ll costs you some money, but this should not be a good reason for you to reject the idea. I mean, nothing good comes out easily.

Now, wait a minute. Why am I talking about this stuff??
My answer: I know some people who don’t aprreciate their hobbies, except they see it just for fun, nothing serious, a waste of money, bla bla bla…But like I said, if you make use of it carefully, it’ll give you much more benefits than disadvantages.

The thing that I hate most is when you yawn loudly and say ‘boringnye.’ or ‘letihnya’ without doing nothing, or without trying to find anything that would occupy your time.

Believe me, old folks get Alzhemier or ‘nyanyuk’ because they do not used to train their brain to keep on working, so you are likely to get this sickness and other diseases like obesity or diabetes if you let yourself sleep, or rest all the time.

So now get up!! Find a hobby and do it. Make daily plan if you need to, especially for those who’re working. Get bored with old hobby?? Search for a new one. It’s easier than you think 🙂 Now, try a PS2. Final Fantasy is a good one, y’know. hehe…

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————- Banji’s Personal Note ————
I personally would like to thank both Ms Intan and Ms aRa for supportively guess the today’s topic 🙂 .. I guess I will have to come up with more attractive prize for any coming contest. Anyway.. after reading Azuwachan’s entry, I too have the urge to start a new hobby. But before that..

To ALL my friends visitting – “Can I know what’s your hobby? besides blogging of course”.  I seriously would like to know you slightly better 🙂

Summary – Emergency Preparation

Yesterday, I was approached by one of my mill’s staff and he wanted to borrow some money. When I asked, he told me that he was robbed after giving a lift to one stranger. He now had to borrow money and had to go through a lot of trouble for the missing document; IC, driving license etc. So guys… be careful with strangers. It’s not safe anymore

A bit alarmed, today I come up with a set of things to do on how to prepare for such emergency. InsyaAllah I will do all the items on the list, and maybe you can help by adding some more useful ideas in.

1) In case my handphone stolen

• To always have spare coins (RM2 worth of coins) in the wallet specifically for the public phone. The last time I used a public phone was few years ago.. hehe

• To print a list of important telephone number and keep it in the wallet. How many of us actually remember phone number anymore, right?

• In the list there will phone number to Digi Call Center (I’m using Digi), so that I can call and bar outgoing call from my phone.

2) In case I fainted in public

• To prepare a RED laminated card with information such as name, contact details of family in case of emergency, medical record / allergy (if you need people to know)

• Reminder : Never give out your home address, if you fainted and bad people have your address and house key, there’s no telling what will happen

• In my handphone’s phonebook, I will set the first name to be my wife, But instead of entering the name, I will put it as “WIFE”. Then if the person (who is hopefully not a handphone thief of course) check through, he will immediately know who to call.

• I’m going to use the Friend Finder service by Digi. (Now I feel like this is an advertisement for Digi eheh). For those who is not familiar, with this service, my wife will be able to know roughly where I am, or where my handphone is. again.. ROUGHLY hehe. At least she will know I’m in 5 km radius of the transmitting station 🙂 Hey it’s better than trying to find me all over Negeri Sembilan right?

3) In case my wallet stolen / lost

• Beforehand, I will have all my cards and documents inside my wallet to be copied into 2 copies(Fotostat). One will be left at home, another inside my car.

• Keep some money, RM5- RM10 with the copy of documents in my car

• Keep track of what actually inside the wallet. What if I forget of my credit card, and forget to report the lost to the bank, things can get messy.

• Reminder : Change your pin number. People with stolen wallet will first attempt to withdraw money from ATM using your birthdate as pin number. Please don’t use your DOB as pin number.

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These are all what I can come up within 30 minutes. A quick brainstorm… I’m very sure, you guys can help add some more important items to the list. Maybe for another emergency? 🙂

—————– Personal Nore —————-
I’ve always very interested in coming up with such preparation. Call it a hobby if you want. But, I like it when in case of emergency, I am well aware of what need to be done. Even though I may not be able to remember and do all, at least.. I know 1 or 2 items

Tomorrow, I’m going to publish an interesting article from Ms Azuwachan. And guess what, there is one word in today’s entry which will describe the entry. And the first person who can guess the keyword will win a link to his/her blog in the post 🙂

The rules
– Azuwachan is not entitled to participate
– She also must avoid from giving hint to fellow friends directly or indirectly of the answer 🙂
– One person can only guess one answer
– Dateline 12.01 am 29th November
– The answer and the winner will made known in the entry on Friday.

So guys.. let’s hear your guess, azuwachan – shhh

Summary – How to be happy when you are single?

Yesterday, I wrote an entry on the secret to be happy in a relationship. Ms Tic and Ms aRa had requested a post on how single people too can be happy. I find this quite challenging since, there is no way I can highlight the happiness of being single, without indirectly saying that being in a relationship is less happy.

That is why I’m not going to go through that route. 🙂 In fact the answer to the question is quite simple. As I previously clarified, the happiness for a couple in a relationship is when they are happy with each other. Logically, the happiness for a single (not in a relationship) person will depend on how happy he is with himself.

We can list down the many tips to become happy, but the truth is as long as we’re not happy with our own self, we will never be truly happy.

Aha! now the big question.. how exactly can we be happy with our own self? the answer to this question go beyond the scope of “single” person. Maybe these points will help.

1) Appearance

I know it’s very classic. But some people still feel ugly when looking in the mirror. Now I cannot solve this issue in one paragraph. That will require a whole book or something :). But in short, we feel ugly because basically we want acceptance from people around us. That’s where we are wrong. To hell with those people! We have no control of our appearance (most of them). It is a gift created by Allah, and if people can’t accept it, that is between them and Him. And boy.. you don’t want to argue with Him. Accept that.. and start enjoying life.

2) Life

Another very wide factor. You are not happy with your life, they are very predictable and it seems that there is no future. “Future is never there to be lived, it has to be made” – My very own quote 🙂

I know that sometimes life can be so unfair. You worked so hard to get a promotion when other lazy people is getting it. Definitely not fair… So what do you want to do about it? Quit your job? Go speak to your manager? Any action is good. why? because you are shaping your future yourself. Now the problem is when you didn’t do anything about your life and just complain.

I believe you will find my entry on the donkey interesting

3) Relationship

Everytime I wrote the points, I was actually saying “My god! such a broad topic” 🙂 I guess the key point when talking about relationship is that, “we do what we can.. and if that person choose not to be friend with us, so be it.” Everyone like to have friends, Me especially.. But what can we do if that one person just don’t have the desire to be a friend. Their mind are theirs to control, not ours.

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I chose the three major factors that may influence the happiness of a person. I’m sure you will be able to list down the remaining factors. It is important to know that, these factors are never meant for “single” people. They are actually intended to all of us.

I hope as basic as it is, the guide will help shed some lights to us. Do tell, are you currently happy with yourself? If not, what is it about you that you are not happy?

Conclusion – To be happy, we must be happy. Start by accepting our appearance (strength and flaw), Work on our life and lesser thinking of other people’s opinion on you.

—————- Personal Note —————–
I love the donkey story. Somehow it stuck in my mind anytime shit happens 🙂 Definitely helps..

Another good way to be happier with yourself is actually to ask for it. Ask from Allah to be happier. InsyaAllah things will start getting easier in life.. See you guys tomorrow!